Relationships

“One of the things that women right now get really, really wrong because the culture is jamming it down their throats, is that anytime a man says anything about what's difficult for him, that it turns into a pissing match between the two of them of, do you know…”

“Yes, we have an opinion that there's going to be a premium on relationships given that intelligence is ubiquitous.”

“Yeah, I mean, it may be that both relationships and taste become even more important because of the volume of information that can be created could create more noise.”

“And the core of all of these issues comes from relationships, right? While people will say that they've had career issues in the past, or they've had financial issues in the past, or they will have You know, a lot of other kind of issues, right? But what we re…”

“At different stages of your life, your expectations from them versus what they provide to you is going to be always misaligned. And that is always going to get into a bit of a dysfunctional relationship.”

“No, relationships are an alive organism. They're a living relational system. And, you know, there's a certain point where, no, you can't breathe life into it.”

“There's a problem with that because you'll always inflate your contribution of the relationship and minimize theirs.”

“I think it removes a variable. You know, I think it takes something off the table that becomes a deep source of antagonism in a relationship.”

“We're afraid to speak up for ourselves, because we think that if we speak up for ourselves, then it's going to spell the end of the relationship. That person's, we're only going to keep that relationship if we continue to keep our needs very, very small. And n…”

“I don't care how good your product is. Because that's not what business is built on. Business is built on relationships. That's what business is built on.”

“When every company has an army of AI agents that are coding and selling relationships, relationships are gonna have a lot of value, like being able to call up somebody at another company and get a deal done, like just very old fashioned, like do a power lunch …”

“Like you get to see that your partner can struggle, has struggled, will struggle, and they'll make it through themselves. They might not always need to depend on you either.”

“I think that relationships die from a thousand cuts, not like this big thing. You know what I mean? Like, even relationships that they have, oh, they cheated on me or whatever, it's like probably the thousand cuts that's created the environment for the infidel…”

“I think your energy is probably the best flag, and it isn't always about something specific. So if you leave those interactions and You know, you find yourself not feeling great. To me, that's the, always the first flag. And then do you notice there's a patter…”

“Use all the exact words that a human does, but the very knowledge that it's a bot will undermine any sort of relationship that you can build with it.”

“When you build a relationship, it goes better, doesn't it? It goes better in the tough times. There's more honesty. There's less baloney. And so when we skip that step, We just never have that relationship”

“There's some evidence that you can make predictions about how a relationship is going based on just the number of those so-called bids that a partner responds to positively. Like when you're asked for attention, you kind of attend back.”

“You build relationships by a stair-stepping of Incremental disclosure about each other, and build rapport, and relationship, and trust around that.”

“This doesn't change the direction. It just changes the volume.”

“I often say to couples with kids, the relationship's another child. You don't have one child, you have two. It's called your child named, you know, Mary, and then you have a relation, a marital relationship to still nurture, and people don't get that a relatio…”

“You know, there is a theory that says that basically, whatever you discuss, the difficult conversations, if you want, that you discuss 20 years later, they were all there in the first two dates. People actually know their things, they know their key conversati…”

“You know, I think one of the big conversations that accompanies every relationship is about closeness and separateness. What is together, and what is individualistic, or what individual, you know. How much money do you get to spend alone? And how much money, y…”

“To be secure in a relationship is to have both of those things. Is to be able to come back to the harbor, to anchor yourself, to feel rooted, and then to get up, to leave, and to go and play without having to worry.”

“Adding another person never makes things easier.”

“Your people think that conflict is the issue in distressed relationships. Conflict is the virus. The inflammation is emotional disconnection, that you can't connect with this person, you can't get this person to respond to you, this person isn't responding to …”

“Yes, it's in, in, in distressed relationships, the most common pattern we see is one person is demanding and getting angry and criticizing, and the other person is defending and distancing.”

“All drama in relationships, personal or professional, is caused by unaligned commitments. That's that word commitment. We're not headed in the same direction or unclear and unkept agreements.”

“My great, my high level view of relationships is that it's better to build a life and bring a person into it than it is to try and build a life around a person.”

“You can't learn a thing about a couple when they're having a good time. You learn everything when they're having a bad time.”

“This is one of the reasons, by the way, I don't have a relationship. It becomes very, if I have a relationship, it becomes obviously clear what I care about, whoever I'm with, right? And if people then know how to cater to whoever I'm with, it's actually a wea…”

“People talk about pitches and decks, that's bullshit. You know. The whole thing, it's about the relationship. You know, people, nobody's going to write you a twenty million dollar check if they haven't known you for a while, observed the way you execute, seein…”