Parenting

“I think you have to inject some misery in your kids' lives so they have that hunger. It can be fake because they know it, but you can't give them everything because otherwise they won't be hungry.”

“Product management is all about influence, and that's basically parenting.”

“Whether we're talking about leadership in parenting or leadership in the workplace, it's actually the exact same principles that can be applied, and the good news for that is whether you're a parent, you're a leader at work, you're both, learning one system an…”

“Parenting is the last area in life that we glorify instinct alone. Where we say, especially to women, this whole idea of maternal instinct, I don't know, this is probably a little controversial. I was like, wow, what a way to gaslight parents.”

“Kids should be having kids when they're in their teens. That's when they're supposed to have them. And you could argue that maybe there's a reason to stretch it out a little bit, but if we're just talking about Physical ability and depth of well of energy. You…”

“And what a lot of parents want to do is just order kids around. Like, go to bed because I'm dad. I'm, why? Because I said so. I'm because I'm the father. That's why. Well, that's not really helping them think. It's demonstrating to them that the only way you c…”

“A tricky trap to get into by always putting your children first, and always, your children, the best thing you can give your children is parents who know how to support each other, and stand together, and help each other. Not only that, but you give your child…”

“Your children need to understand the why, why you are doing the things you are doing. That is how you navigate this tension well, because what kids do is if you do not tell them the why of why you are excited about the things you're doing, why you are passiona…”

“A marker of good parenting is that your child doesn't have any wish to be famous.”

“So the last thing we want to do is what we've been doing is affirm every one of their emotions, no matter how Extreme or dysregulated and then talk to them as if we're all just, you know, feelers here. We're all just emotional feelers trying to understand each…”

“And I think that makes really well-rounded humans. I think they see a lot of the struggle that we have. They see a lot of the sacrifices that we make for them to give them the life that we do give them. And I think personally that it makes it makes them well-r…”

“The way kids learn how to regulate emotions is through their relationship with their parents, right? It's not something you could get taught in a textbook, and it's not to say when we get older if we didn't have a lot of those early experiences that helped us …”

“Two things that are totally independent is us making a good decision as a parent, and our kid having a big emotional reaction. They're both equally true and equally valid.”

“Yeah, you have a child and it's way less happiness, way more joy. Like that's what it is. You have less happiness moment to moment. You have more joy in these moments that are just beyond you're holding a child.”

“You know, marry well. I think that's 80% of the problem is just finding the right person to marry.”

“It is my duty as a person who I think at least that I have my shit together when it comes to parenting and that I'm going to raise decent kids. It's my duty to create as many as I possibly can.”

“What she finds is that when you give kids a very different puzzle later on, kids who've had that taking over condition, where the parents give the answer, give up much more quickly. And if you find ways to survey them about what they believe, like, they probab…”

“The percentage of my life that's the hard part, the diapers, the potty training, the crying, is, is reducing as a percentage of my total life. You ask anyone what the pleasure, the most pleasure parts are of having kids? Oh, when they're, you don't have to tak…”

“Love the kid that you have, not the kid that you want. That is a little bit of preparation to say that your child is going to be hard in unique ways. Every child is hard in their unique ways, and every child is going to do things that you didn't expect and tha…”

“The standard of parenting is not going to be perfection. The standard of parenting is going to be a commitment to a process that when you make mistakes, you know, you tell your child you made a mistake. And you commit to a process of trying to be the best kind…”

“We say no so often. That they don't take it seriously on that big one. Well, there's three alternatives to no. You start today. So when you need to say no, you say it, and mean it, and follow through with it.”

“Expose your child in teen years to as many of your friends who might be possible role models as possible. Like at some margin, they're just not going to listen to you anymore. They're not going to watch your behavior anymore. They know what you're about. They'…”

“Don't fall into the trap of booking up your kid's life with organized activities, because then you're depriving them of all the real learning that, that they're built to do.”