parenting

“Expose your child in teen years to as many of your friends who might be possible role models as possible. Like at some margin, they're just not going to listen to you anymore. They're not going to watch your behavior anymore. They know what you're about. They'…”

“We say no so often. That they don't take it seriously on that big one. Well, there's three alternatives to no. You start today. So when you need to say no, you say it, and mean it, and follow through with it.”

“The standard of parenting is not going to be perfection. The standard of parenting is going to be a commitment to a process that when you make mistakes, you know, you tell your child you made a mistake. And you commit to a process of trying to be the best kind…”

“The percentage of my life that's the hard part, the diapers, the potty training, the crying, is, is reducing as a percentage of my total life. You ask anyone what the pleasure, the most pleasure parts are of having kids? Oh, when they're, you don't have to tak…”

“What she finds is that when you give kids a very different puzzle later on, kids who've had that taking over condition, where the parents give the answer, give up much more quickly. And if you find ways to survey them about what they believe, like, they probab…”

“Two things that are totally independent is us making a good decision as a parent, and our kid having a big emotional reaction. They're both equally true and equally valid.”

“The way kids learn how to regulate emotions is through their relationship with their parents, right? It's not something you could get taught in a textbook, and it's not to say when we get older if we didn't have a lot of those early experiences that helped us …”

“So the last thing we want to do is what we've been doing is affirm every one of their emotions, no matter how Extreme or dysregulated and then talk to them as if we're all just, you know, feelers here. We're all just emotional feelers trying to understand each…”

“A tricky trap to get into by always putting your children first, and always, your children, the best thing you can give your children is parents who know how to support each other, and stand together, and help each other. Not only that, but you give your child…”