Dr. Becky: Glorifying maternal instinct in parenting gaslights parents
Dr. Becky Kennedy · A child psychologist’s guide to working with difficult adults | Dr. Becky Kennedy · Feb 1, 2026 · at 1:11:33
Dr. Becky Kennedy, clinical psychologist and founder of Good Inside, discusses the founding philosophy behind her parenting platform and challenges common parenting assumptions.
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“Parenting is the last area in life that we glorify instinct alone. Where we say, especially to women, this whole idea of maternal instinct, I don't know, this is probably a little controversial. I was like, wow, what a way to gaslight parents.”
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