Couples
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Tu: Nearly 50% of couples do not discuss money until engagement
“Nearly 50% of couples don't talk about money until they're engaged”
Sanchez: Tackling hard physical challenges together is rare for modern couples
“I do think that having some component of doing really hard things, not just individually, but together, Is maybe rare for couples these days.”
Brooks: The Happiest Couples Pair an Introvert with an Extrovert
“You find that by the way, the happiest couples, they tend to be one introvert and one extrovert.”
Chapman: Couples fight more on Friday nights than any other night
“More couples will fight on Friday night than any night of the week. And I think that's an upper limits pattern because it's like, oh, honey, We have the whole weekend now to, you know, have more connection. And so that'll be a threat somehow to well, you know,…”
Iasenza: Couples' communication problems are often failures to negotiate differences
“We're having trouble with differences, so it might not even be communications really the problem. It's that they're not able or they don't have the skills to be able to hear each other out, to be able to then find compromises, which is a big skill in couples.”
Iasenza: Individual Sessions Help Couples Surface Secrets Safely Before Joint Therapy
“That's why with couples often whether they're, especially if they present with sexual issues, but even if not, sometimes I will do some individual sessions for history, or just for them to tell me a little bit more about a particular problem, because sometimes…”
Iasenza: Highly reactive and hostile couples can achieve profound long-term turnarounds
“If people allow themselves to unfold, it could take years, but people can turn corners, and I've seen people turn corners that if you took the video tape in the first session, you would have said, I can't believe this is the same couple.”
Iasenza: The Clinical Desire Narrative Creates Most Dysfunction in Couples
“That desire component since the 19 eighties, I think is one of the major narratives, I believe creates problems in couples, because most couples come in with desire disorders.”
Perel: Couples grow apart from how they experience differences, not differences themselves
“Look, when people grow apart, it's not because they have a difference of opinion, necessarily, because some couples have major differences in opinion, but they continue to remain deeply connected, curious about each other, respectful of who they are, and they,…”
Perel: Argument choreography matters far more than the actual content
“What's really important in terms of couples and relationships in general, I will say, is that it's probably one of the golden rules, is to understand that the choreography, the form, is way more important than the content. If you have people who are going at e…”
Nagoski: Long-term sexual connection requires a foundation of trust and prioritizing sex
“The couples who sustain a strong sexual connection, the two things they do have in common, one, they are friends. They have a strong friendship with trust at the foundation of their relationship. There it is again, trust. And two, they prioritize sex.”
Johnson: Secure bonds help couples navigate major life transitions together
“And if people have a secure bond, they can manage those transitions because they're open and they can look at them together. When they don't have a secure bond, those transitions exacerbate all the distance between.”