couples

9 statements across 5 episodes · 2 bullish · 1 bearish · 5 people on the record · first statement Jul 23, 2019 by Dr. Sue Johnson · across every show →

Everything said about couples, oldest first

Jul 23, 2019 positive
Insight
Johnson: Secure bonds help couples navigate major life transitions together
“And if people have a secure bond, they can manage those transitions because they're open and they can look at them together. When they don't have a secure bond, those transitions exacerbate all the distance between.”
Dr. Sue Johnson Jul 23, 2019 ▶ 1:55:21 #62 Dr. Sue Johnson: Cracking the Code of Love
Sep 17, 2019
Insight
Nagoski: Long-term sexual connection requires a foundation of trust and prioritizing sex
“The couples who sustain a strong sexual connection, the two things they do have in common, one, they are friends. They have a strong friendship with trust at the foundation of their relationship. There it is again, trust. And two, they prioritize sex.”
Emily Nagoski Sep 17, 2019 ▶ 48:21 #66 Dr. Emily Nagoski: Pleasure is the Measure
Dec 10, 2019
Insight
Perel: Argument choreography matters far more than the actual content
“What's really important in terms of couples and relationships in general, I will say, is that it's probably one of the golden rules, is to understand that the choreography, the form, is way more important than the content. If you have people who are going at e…”
Esther Perel Dec 10, 2019 ▶ 37:28 #71 Esther Perel: Cultivating Desire
Dec 10, 2019
Insight
Perel: Couples grow apart from how they experience differences, not differences themselves
“Look, when people grow apart, it's not because they have a difference of opinion, necessarily, because some couples have major differences in opinion, but they continue to remain deeply connected, curious about each other, respectful of who they are, and they,…”
Esther Perel Dec 10, 2019 ▶ 31:34 #71 Esther Perel: Cultivating Desire
Feb 4, 2020 negative
Opinion
Iasenza: The Clinical Desire Narrative Creates Most Dysfunction in Couples
“That desire component since the 19 eighties, I think is one of the major narratives, I believe creates problems in couples, because most couples come in with desire disorders.”
Suzanne Iasenza Feb 4, 2020 ▶ 25:32 #75 Suzanne Iasenza: Rewriting Relationship Narratives
Feb 4, 2020
Insight
Iasenza: Couples' communication problems are often failures to negotiate differences
“We're having trouble with differences, so it might not even be communications really the problem. It's that they're not able or they don't have the skills to be able to hear each other out, to be able to then find compromises, which is a big skill in couples.”
Suzanne Iasenza Feb 4, 2020 ▶ 3:45 #75 Suzanne Iasenza: Rewriting Relationship Narratives
Feb 4, 2020 positive
Insight
Iasenza: Highly reactive and hostile couples can achieve profound long-term turnarounds
“If people allow themselves to unfold, it could take years, but people can turn corners, and I've seen people turn corners that if you took the video tape in the first session, you would have said, I can't believe this is the same couple.”
Suzanne Iasenza Feb 4, 2020 ▶ 17:40 #75 Suzanne Iasenza: Rewriting Relationship Narratives
Feb 4, 2020 neutral
Disclosure
Iasenza: Individual Sessions Help Couples Surface Secrets Safely Before Joint Therapy
“That's why with couples often whether they're, especially if they present with sexual issues, but even if not, sometimes I will do some individual sessions for history, or just for them to tell me a little bit more about a particular problem, because sometimes…”
Suzanne Iasenza Feb 4, 2020 ▶ 6:27 #75 Suzanne Iasenza: Rewriting Relationship Narratives
Feb 8, 2022
Assertion Contradicted
Chapman: Couples fight more on Friday nights than any other night
“More couples will fight on Friday night than any night of the week. And I think that's an upper limits pattern because it's like, oh, honey, We have the whole weekend now to, you know, have more connection. And so that'll be a threat somehow to well, you know,…”
Diana Chapman Feb 8, 2022 ▶ 57:40 #130 Diana Chapman: Trusting Your Instincts
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