Dr. Becky Kennedy
Founder & CEO, Good Inside. On 2 shows, 3 appearances. The Shows tab opens the full record on each.
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Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist and parenting expert who founded Good Inside, a parenting guidance platform and membership community. She authored the bestseller Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be and hosts the podcast Good Inside with Dr. Becky.
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Everything Dr. Becky Kennedy said on any show that made the record, most notable first. Each card names its show and opens the statement there.
Dr. Becky: Glorifying maternal instinct in parenting gaslights parents
“Parenting is the last area in life that we glorify instinct alone. Where we say, especially to women, this whole idea of maternal instinct, I don't know, this is probably a little controversial. I was like, wow, what a way to gaslight parents.”
Kennedy: Events Do Not Traumatize Children, Their Internal Narrative Does
“Events don't mess up kids.
Events aren't even inherently traumatizing.
What, I don't like to mess up because it sounds so final, but what really impacts kids is not an event.
It's the story they tell themselves about the event.”
Kennedy: Fear-Based Parenting Conditions Kids for Unhealthy Adult Relationships
“Wireing fear next to love is not something I recommend, because yes, what that means, I'll lay it out, is your kid will go into their adult relationships thinking loving relationships are one in which you fear your partner, and that's who they'll be attracted …”
Dr. Becky: Isolation and shame fail to teach emotional regulation skills
“Nobody learns new skills by being sent to their room. Nobody learns new skills by adding shame. All that does is increase the gap between feelings and skills. It's just totally counterproductive.”
Dr. Becky: Boundaries state your actions and require nothing from others
“Boundaries are what you tell someone else you will do, and it requires the other person to do nothing.”
Dr. Becky: People express fears rather than wishes during crisis moments
“At our worst moments, first of all, at our worst moments, we speak, I think our fears, not our wishes, number one. And at our worst moments, we're not a good place to make good decisions for ourselves.”
Dr. Becky: Optimizing for childhood happiness breeds adult anxiety and fragility
“Optimizing for happiness in childhood is the quickest way to build anxiety and fragility in adulthood. Hard stop.”
Kennedy: Expecting Kids to Self-Regulate Screen Time Sets Families Up to Fail
“Now, if you know video games, and I know video games, and if you know phones, and I know phones, the idea that your kid is going to be able to stop themselves at a certain time is, is just probably setting everyone up for failure. It's just, you get sucked in,…”
Kennedy: Collaborative Respect Is the Only Productive Path With Teens
“Approaching a teen in that, like, hey, I respect you. Like, here's the situation. Let's think through it together. That's the only way you're going to get to a productive solution anyway, because teenagers inherently, they don't care about their towel on the f…”
Kennedy: Children Learn Emotional Regulation by Absorbing Their Parents' Calm
“The way kids learn how to regulate emotions is through their relationship with their parents, right? It's not something you could get taught in a textbook, and it's not to say when we get older if we didn't have a lot of those early experiences that helped us …”
Kennedy: Neither Children Nor Adults Can Self-Regulate Smartphone Usage
“Kids cannot self-regulate with phones, period. I would also say adults cannot self-regulate with phones. They are stronger than us.”
Kennedy: Relying on Currencies and Leverage Indicates an Unhealthy Dynamic
“To me, if we're thinking of
About our relationship with our kid in terms of what we could give or take away that they care about, we're not in a great place.”
Dr. Becky: Workplace leadership and parenting share the exact same psychological principles
“Whether we're talking about leadership in parenting or leadership in the workplace, it's actually the exact same principles that can be applied, and the good news for that is whether you're a parent, you're a leader at work, you're both, learning one system an…”
Dr. Becky: Humans share identical core emotional needs across all life stages
“All humans need the same things. Whether we're one or five or 45 or 85, we tend to need the same things. When the needs are not being met, we all tend to express ourselves in kind of ineffective, less than ideal ways.”
Dr. Becky: Relational repair drives workplace cooperation and productivity
“There's just nothing to reestablish trust and connection like repair. And when trust and connection are reestablished, then whether it's your kid or someone at work, They cooperate better. You don't get into conversations that are kind of run on conversations …”
Dr. Becky Kennedy: Efficiency and Relationship Building Are Often in Direct Opposition
“Efficiency and relationship building are often in opposition. We're doing one or the other.”
Dr. Becky Kennedy: Defensiveness occurs when behavioral feedback feels like identity criticism
“Do you know why we're defensive? Because we think someone else, instead of talking about our behavior, is talking about our identity.”
Kennedy: Internal narratives about an organization dictate how leaders lead
“The story you tell yourself as a kid at night kind of becomes the parent you are the next morning. Probably same true. The story you tell yourself by your organization at night becomes the leader you are the next morning.”
Kennedy: Applying a 'Most Generous Interpretation' lens resolves workplace friction
“Instead of everyone complaining about that person, or whatever it is, and nothing changing, which is just horrible for culture and productivity, we have one conversation through an MGI lens, and things start, you know, moving forward in a more productive way.”
Dr. Becky: Bad behavior at any age stems from feelings overpowering skills
“Kids are born with all the feelings and none of the skills to manage feelings. Bad behavior at any age can basically be reduced to feelings that overpower skills.”
Kennedy: Autonomy-sensitive 'resilient rebels' instinctively resist perceived encroachment
“Temperamentally, there are a subset of people. I call these resilient rebels. They present as like strong-willed, defiant kids who's, I think we all walk around with the core fear that we end up acting out. Their core fear is the loss of control. They are very…”
Dr. Becky: Tantrums Are a Sign Boundaries Are Being Successfully Set
“When you set a true boundary, especially if it's new, your kid will tantrum and protest. But if you actually see that as a sign That you're successfully setting a boundary, instead of as a sign you did something wrong, your relationship with the tantrum change…”
Dr. Becky: Asymmetric information and experience justify unilateral leadership decisions
“Inherently you're in a position of leadership because you have experience other people don't have, you have insight, you judgment, you might like just very literally have access to company information and data that other people don't have that.”
Dr. Becky: Children Act Out More Due to Missing Boundaries, Not Exploitation
“And you know why kids act out more? It's not because they're taking advantage of you. It's because they feel that much more dysregulated because they don't feel like there's an adult in the room who's willing to put a container on their, like, shell-less egg t…”
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 LENNY'S PODCASTLEDGER | Founder & CEO, Good Inside | 1 | 28 | — | full record on Lenny's Podcast → |
 KNOWLEDGE PROJECTLEDGER | Founder & CEO, Good Inside | 2 | 26 | — | full record on the Knowledge Project → |