Kennedy: Fear-Based Parenting Conditions Kids for Unhealthy Adult Relationships
Dr. Becky Kennedy · Dr. Becky Kennedy: The One Thing You Can Say That Changes Everything · Feb 6, 2024 · at 1:38:41
Clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy discusses why coercive and fear-based compliance strategies in parenting harm children's long-term relational development.
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“Wireing fear next to love is not something I recommend, because yes, what that means, I'll lay it out, is your kid will go into their adult relationships thinking loving relationships are one in which you fear your partner, and that's who they'll be attracted to.”
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