Couples Therapy
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Bernstein: Couples therapy works best with three separate therapists
“Typically it's best to have It's not that you can't, but I think it's best to have your own therapist, they have their own therapist, then you have a couple's work.”
Dr. Sue Johnson: Couples Cannot Use Taught Communication Skills During Real Conflict
“The trouble is with communication skills that you can't, all the evidence, all the research says you can't use them when you need them.”
Johnson: 70% of therapists treating couples lack actual couples therapy training
“Because the fact of the matter is, 70% of mental health professionals in North America say they seek Couples now, because the demand is huge, and most of those people have not been trained in couples therapy.”
Married co-founders need couples therapy to untangle enmeshed work and life pressures
“For a married couple who works together, who parents together, who owns a business together, it's really important that you seek therapy together. There's so many issues that come in and they can all be enmeshed. They can all kind of cross. It's important to h…”
Iasenza: Almost all couples initially cite communication as their primary problem
“Almost all couples, whether it's, ah, they have sexual issues or other issues, usually will say communication. That's one of people's most favorite presenting descriptions, is they'll say, we need help with communication, which is the general catch-all kind of…”
Iasenza: Lack of commitment after resolved issues signals desire to leave
“And sometimes you could see each thing gets better, but a half of the couple might not still be committed, more committed. And more happy. That can give you a clue that there could be still something about this person really doesn't want to be here.”
Iasenza: Initiators often leave breakup therapy due to overwhelming guilt
“Sometimes the person who is breaking up, they can't tolerate staying in the room because they feel too guilty about it.”
Iasenza: Having children helps separating couples endure difficult conversations
“In fact, that having a kid in the picture really can give them the strength to stay there and really tough out the really difficult conversations.”
Seides: Active listening uses the exact same toolkit across all disciplines
“The discipline of listening, I have come both through the podcast and through experience to realize there is sort of a body of knowledge, just like, you know, if you take algebra, you need to learn certain principles to understand how to do algebra. Listening …”