The Wisdom Wall

“confidence isn't about believing you're gonna achieve success. It, it's a comfort with failure. It's knowing that you're gonna be okay if it doesn't turn out okay. Like, that's actually what makes you confident in a situation.”

“as soon as you adopt a label as an identity, like, the way our minds work is, is whatever I've defined my, my, myself as part of my identity, I'm gonna defend it, and I'm gonna become emotionally attached to it.”

“I feel like cutting family members out of your life is, is a, uh, a move of last resort. Like, there's a lot of intermediary steps you can go.”

“here's the funny thing that we've actually noticed with a lot of our early users as well is that like people are way more honest with an AI than they are with a therapist.”

“it's actually very, very hard to, you have to be extremely skilled to get it to do what you want extremely well, and, and oftentimes, the amount of effort it takes to get it to do something you want extremely well, You might as well just do it yourself, so.”

“When they try to control your reaction to them, it is like inherently off-putting. I think we generally respect people who are, we generally respect people who respect our agency, right? So if I come in here and I just start saying all the things you want to hear and trying to impress you and like be like all what I…”

“Both money and happiness are They're like oxygen. When you don't have any, they solve everything, but when you, when you have some, it solves nothing, right? So yeah, if you're broke, go get some money. Like, that's, that's definitely gonna solve your problems, and if you're really miserable or depressed, then like,…”

“Chase after that ten-year goal. Hopefully you achieve it. That's great, but just understand that, like, once you get on the other side of achieving it, you're still gonna be the same stressed, anxious person who Has problems and gets in fights with his mother, and like, it's like, it's all the, you're gonna be the same…”

“If I had a sixteen-year-old in front of me and, and my job was to optimize them to have the most healthy and successful life possible, I would actually start with social skills because it's on the psychological side, like pretty much all of the research around happiness essentially boils down to the quality of your…”

“But it's, I mean, it's like anything though, right? Like, I mean, it's, it's, you, you've, you climb that ladder with money too, right? Like, it's like the first time you have a five figure deal, you're sweating bullets. You know, now it's like, You don't even, probably don't even get out of bed for a five figure deal.…”

“it's not about Not giving a fuck what other people think. It's about finding something that is more important than what other people think. Because if you don't have anything more important going on in your life than what other people think about you, then what other people think about you is going to dictate…”

“when you, when you frame things as a rule, it's like, hey, this is just a rule I have in my life. I, I just don't do this thing, and it's just to take care of my own health and my own sanity or whatever. People respect it. Um, and then if they don't, it actually, it makes it very easy to be like, oh, well then, fuck…”

“this is why you often see, like, founders and entrepreneurs are delusionally optimistic and overestimate themselves consistently, uh, because it's actually very useful in a certain context.”

“it's very easy to Unconsciously change how you see yourself based on the financial opportunities that show up. It's very tempting to do that. And, um, and I did that, and it, like, I ended up paying the consequences.”

“for people who care right now or in a phase of their life that they care very deeply about success, productivity, achievement, all those things, you have to view your emotions as another system to be managed.”

“In terms of tactically, I, you know, I think, I think journaling is like, by far, probably the easiest lift, like the highest leverage activity, um, for people who haven't thought about this stuff a whole lot.”

“I, I, I personally think marrying well is, like, the single highest leveraged decision of your entire life. And, and also not marrying well is also a very high leverage decision. Like, it just, it is just the, the force multiplier on all of your outcomes across life, and it's not just your career outcomes, it's your…”

“My favorite first date question that I recommend everybody ask is, ask the person you're on a date with, um, what did you learn from your last relationship? And the red flag is if the person starts going off about how horrible their ex was, and how shitty they were, and oh my god, I can't believe I dated them for so…”

“The question is, is like, what pain do you want? Like, what are you willing to give up? What struggles are you actually kind of okay having? Like what challenges do you seem to do better with than most people? Like those are, that's actually where you get into who somebody is and like what makes you unique as an…”