Manson: Personal fulfillment depends on choosing which struggles you want to endure
Mark Manson · The Confidence Expert: How To Build UNSHAKEABLE Self Confidence | Mark Manson · Dec 4, 2025 · at 1:12:16
Author Mark Manson discusses personal growth and fulfillment with Codie Sanchez, explaining why choosing what to sacrifice matters more than setting conventional goals.
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“The question is, is like, what pain do you want? Like, what are you willing to give up? What struggles are you actually kind of okay having? Like what challenges do you seem to do better with than most people? Like those are, that's actually where you get into who somebody is and like what makes you unique as an individual and what is ultimately going to serve you best as you move through life.”
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