Manson: Trying to force people to like you backfires by violating their agency
Mark Manson · The Confidence Expert: How To Build UNSHAKEABLE Self Confidence | Mark Manson · Dec 4, 2025 · at 1:46
Author Mark Manson discusses the psychology of people-pleasing and social dynamics with host Codie Sanchez.
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“When they try to control your reaction to them, it is like inherently off-putting. I think we generally respect people who are, we generally respect people who respect our agency, right? So if I come in here and I just start saying all the things you want to hear and trying to impress you and like be like all what I think you want to see, it actually puts a lot of pressure on you to make me feel happy and ok and Paradoxically, that makes you feel bad.”
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