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Bernstein: People attract narcissists because wounded parts feel unworthy
“Stop blaming the narcissist and look at why you were a match for the narcissist. Okay, this is very important, right? Some people find their way into narcissistic relationships, and some people just don't. Why? Because the people that find their way into the n…”
Bernstein: AI has given better advice than some human therapists
“I think that there's been many instances where AI has given me better advice than some therapists have had.”
Bernstein: People lacking confidence should lower goals to match belief
“This isn't going to be something that you want to hear because it's a little off brand, but I would say change the goals because we don't want to be reaching for things that we don't believe in. If we have a goal that feels out of alignment with what we believ…”
Bernstein: Therapy Cannot Resolve Hormonal Mood Shifts Without Hormone Replacement
“There's no amount of therapy. There's no, the only thing that can work you through that is no, well, there's hormones to help, you know, don't, you know, I'm a big, big fan of hormone replacement therapy. I think do whatever it takes to get to great.”
Bernstein: Personal healing forces a partner to either do the work or separate
“In your self led energetic state, your partner has two choices. They can rise up to the occasion and get to work on their own, or they can stay stuck in their parts. And that's when a relationship choice is made. You know, is this, are we gonna grow together o…”
Bernstein: Only workers capable of using AI will keep their jobs
“Because the folks that have the capacity to use AI are the ones that are going to still have jobs.”
Bernstein: Boundaries set without internal self-attunement are merely rage
“We can't actually create those boundaries until we Befriend the parts. Because otherwise, if we're just sort of like, if we're not tending to what's happening inside, and we're just putting up boundaries, they're fake. They're, you know, you leave me alone. I'…”
Bernstein: Releasing control of a problem for 24 hours resets your mindset
“I always love to tell people if they're controlling something or they're trying to manipulate something to give it away just for the day. So we can do anything for 24 hours. We can say, okay, that, that situation with the person that really got you riled up, g…”
Bernstein: IFS works by befriending limiting inner parts instead of shunning them
“And IFS, simply put, is a way of befriending the parts of yourselves that hold you back. That keep you small. That keep you stuck. And getting into relationship with these parts of yourselves rather than shunning them or putting yourself down for it.”
Bernstein: Perimenopause Begins a Decade Before Full Menopause
“You're in perimenopause a decade before you're in menopause and I went through it early. So I didn't know from 35 to 45 that I was in perimenopause because I went into menopause at 45.”
Bernstein: Couples therapy works best with three separate therapists
“Typically it's best to have It's not that you can't, but I think it's best to have your own therapist, they have their own therapist, then you have a couple's work.”