Bernstein: People attract narcissists because wounded parts feel unworthy
Gabrielle Bernstein · Stop Spiraling: The 4-Step Check-In That Resets Your Mind | Gabby Bernstein · Jan 22, 2026 · at 35:51
Spiritual author Gabrielle Bernstein discusses relationship dynamics and why individuals repeatedly end up in relationships with narcissistic partners.
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“Stop blaming the narcissist and look at why you were a match for the narcissist. Okay, this is very important, right? Some people find their way into narcissistic relationships, and some people just don't. Why? Because the people that find their way into the narcissistic relationships have parts of them that believe that's what they're worthy of. They have parts of them that are attracted to that. They have parts of them that are sabotaging inside. There are parts of them that are wounded and had, had narcissists in their childhood.”
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