Johnson: Witnessing constructive parental conflict and repair benefits children
Dr. Sue Johnson · #62 Dr. Sue Johnson: Cracking the Code of Love · Jul 23, 2019 · at 1:56:33
Clinical psychologist Dr. Sue Johnson explains to Shane Parrish why observing parental disagreement paired with emotional repair helps children develop healthy relationship attitudes.
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“It's not a good idea to have huge conflicts all the time in front of your kids. Indeed, the research is that's not good for them. It freaks them out. But, you know, I feel like there's something very healthy about my kids have seen me and my husband really disagree and challenge each other. And then they see us come back together and comfort each other.”
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