Dr. Sue Johnson
29 statements across 3 episodes · 6 bullish · 7 bearish · 1 people on the record · first statement Jul 23, 2019 by Dr. Sue Johnson · across every show →
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Jul 23, 2019 negative
Jul 23, 2019
Jul 23, 2019
Johnson: Secure childhood attachment correlates with better friendships and happier romantic relationships
“Research says that they're more likely to have friends in high school, they're more likely to have better, be better friends themselves, and they're more likely to be empathic With any person they're dating, right, they're more likely to find happy dating rela…”
Jul 23, 2019 negative
Johnson: Communication skill training fails during conflict due to amygdala hijacking
“The trouble is with communication skills that you can't, all the evidence, all the research says you can't use them when you need them. I mean, I'm pretty good at all this stuff, but when I'm having a fight with my partner, I don't use all my skills. It's my a…”
Jul 23, 2019
Dr. Sue Johnson: Trust grows when vulnerability is met with emotional responsiveness
“You're based, you're constantly building trust, and how do you build trust? You take risks with each other, you show yourself, you're open and accessible, and you take risks with each other, and when one of you takes a risk, the other one responds.”
Jul 23, 2019 negative
Johnson: Avoidance worsens emotional problems by preventing corrective experiences
“Avoidance is a lousy strategy with emotional problems. I'm not just talking about marriage. I'm talking about anything. Depression, anxiety. It's lousy strategy, ok? It's, it sets you up. You never face the problem, so you never have any new corrective experie…”
Jul 23, 2019 negative
Johnson: Romantic attachment is structured by biology, not social convention
“These things are not social conventions. They're not made up. You know, the New York Times writes articles about how Oh, romantic. Love is changing, and, you know, we're all going to be polyamorous, or we're going to have hookups until we're 60, and it's all g…”
Jul 23, 2019
Johnson: Emotionally shutting down triggers biological danger cues in partners
“What they don't understand is that in an intimate relationship, if I cut off emotionally and I shut down, I shut you out. And if I shut you out, and you're a bonding mammal and not a lizard, and you care about me, I trigger danger cues and fear in your brain. …”
Jul 23, 2019 neutral
Dr. Sue Johnson: Time Does Not Heal Relationship Attachment Injuries
“People think, people say things like, time will heal. It will not. Your brain holds onto it. It's significant survival information. When you need it, your partner wasn't there. They're no longer safe. You can't count on them. Your brain will hold onto that.”
Jul 23, 2019 positive
Jul 23, 2019
Johnson: Relationship distress stems from emotional disconnection, not conflict
“Your people think that conflict is the issue in distressed relationships. Conflict is the virus. The inflammation is emotional disconnection, that you can't connect with this person, you can't get this person to respond to you, this person isn't responding to …”
Jul 23, 2019 neutral
Jul 23, 2019
Johnson: People in close relationships attune emotionally rather than overthinking
“People who have close relationships are more able to tune, attune in that way. They tune into the relational drama that's going on in a relationship. Other people do what I was doing. They're in their head predicting stuff,”
Jul 23, 2019 positive
Johnson: Witnessing constructive parental conflict and repair benefits children
“It's not a good idea to have huge conflicts all the time in front of your kids. Indeed, the research is that's not good for them. It freaks them out. But, you know, I feel like there's something very healthy about my kids have seen me and my husband really dis…”
Jul 23, 2019 neutral
Jul 23, 2019
Johnson: Choose a partner who actively responds to and cares for vulnerability
“What you really need to is listen to yourself, and listen to when you feel safe. And when dancing with someone is easy. It makes you feel good. And when you can be vulnerable for a moment, and that person tunes in and cares about your vulnerability that's the …”
Jul 23, 2019
Jul 23, 2019
Dr. Sue Johnson: Distressed partners need emotional presence, not problem-solving
“Men, husbands always think they're going to problem solve and solve all their wife's problems. They don't understand that usually their wife's looking for just them. They're the answer to her problem. She just wants their emotional presence.”
Jul 23, 2019 negative
Jul 23, 2019
Jul 23, 2019 positive
Johnson: Children learn relationship dynamics from parental modeling, not lectures
“I don't think it's what you talk to them about that matters. I think what you show them is what you show, how you treat them. And what you show them with your partner, that's what impacts kids. You can talk to them for hours. It doesn't matter.”
Jul 23, 2019 negative
Jun 21, 2022 positive
Johnson: Safe Childhood Attachment Predicts Better Friendships and Dating Relationships
“So, I think people who've experienced safe connection with a parent have a big advantage, and research says that they're more likely to have friends in high school, they're more likely to have better, be better friends themselves, and they're more likely to be…”
Aug 19, 2025 negative
Johnson: Therapy teaching couples to 'fight fair' is completely irrelevant rubbish
“And therapists focus on conflict, teach you how to fight fair, and fighting fair is rubbish, ok, it's like, it's irrelevant, it's, you know, it's, so, you know and we don't look at what's going on underneath, which is lack of emotional connection”
Aug 19, 2025
Aug 19, 2025 positive
Dr. Sue Johnson: Secure childhood attachment predicts happier adult dating relationships
“So, I think people who've experienced safe connection with a parent have a big advantage, and research says that they're more likely to have friends in high school, they're more likely to have better, be better friends themselves, and they're more likely to be…”
Aug 19, 2025 neutral
Aug 19, 2025 positive
Johnson: Prioritizing your children over your marriage is a dangerous trap
“A tricky trap to get into by always putting your children first, and always, your children, the best thing you can give your children is parents who know how to support each other, and stand together, and help each other. Not only that, but you give your child…”
Aug 19, 2025
Johnson: Time cannot heal relationship injuries because brains retain survival data
“People think, people say things like time will heal that it will not. Your brain holds onto it. It's significant survival information. When you needed, your partner wasn't there. They're no longer safe. You can't count on them.”