Johnson: Biology rejects polyamory trends because human love is neurologically hardwired
Dr. Sue Johnson · The Science of Lasting Love with Dr. Sue Johnson · Aug 19, 2025 · at 27:23
Dr. Sue Johnson pushes back against modern cultural narratives claiming human romantic bonding is an infinitely malleable social construct.
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“The New York Times writes articles about how Oh, romantic, love is changing, and, you know, we're all going to be polyamorous, or we're going to have hookups until we're 60, and it's all going to be great, and, you know, there's going to be lots of freedom, and emotional, and sexual whatever. Well, no, no, there isn't. Sorry, because it's not something we make up and decide on. It's structured by your mammalian brain.”
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