Perel: Changing personal narratives physically alters body language and movement
Esther Perel · #71 Esther Perel: Cultivating Desire · Dec 10, 2019 · at 20:33
Psychotherapist Esther Perel describes how narrative therapy and physical embodiment interact during clinical sessions.
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“It's that the story that is linked to emotions, and emotions are embodied experiences, so when people tell you a story a certain way, they also sit in a certain way that, that leads to telling that kind of story. If you change the story, the body will move differently as well.”
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