parents

“The argument that Harris makes, it's quite compelling is that parents aren't quite as important as they think they are.”

“How you get them to empathize is by asking questions and then being quiet and letting the kids reason. So, you know, if a conflict's happening, the parent who leads the kids towards empathy is saying things like, God, you know, why is your little sister crying…”

“Judy Dunn found, for example, the average siblings, two little beautiful, you know, laughing two and four year old siblings are fighting with each other six times an hour, right? So every 10 minutes they get into a squabble, or they're wrestling, or pulling ea…”

“I think it's important for parents to let kids Experience suffering and to see suffering, right? To recognize that there's pain that this is part of the human condition, because that's really what activates a lot of the pro-social stuff is suffering. And, you …”

“You are their parent till they reach puberty, and then you become their mentor, their model, their guide. I really dislike it when people say, my teenager is my best friend. I say, get a life. You know, they need a mentor. They don't need a friend right now. N…”

“That what matters most in how kids turn out is who we are as parents. It's not a set of strategies, right? It's a relationship, and every relationship comes from two people having that relationship, and in our case, we're the guidance.”

“Our children are born with very incomplete neural systems, and so their limbic system, which is the old word for the emotional parts of the brain and neurology, that limbic system is born pretty unfinished and takes shape in interaction with the parent.”

“So the parent-child relationship is eroded a little bit because the child sees that parent is not completely emotionally trustworthy. This parent is capable of attacking the other parent, or this parent lets themselves be attacked. And doesn't stand up for the…”

“It is natural, I will add, for children to have a hierarchy of attachment objects, people. So it is natural for a child who lives with both parents to have one parent who they select as being the one that they will most go to when they're hurt because they kno…”

“Kids tend to draw strong inferences from their parents' reactions to mistakes. So Kyla's work began with a very curious observation, which was that the correlation between kids' Parents' beliefs about the malleability of intelligence and their parents' beliefs…”

“My parents never congratulated me on anything I ever accomplished. It was just assumed that that's what you were supposed to do.”

“Well, I'll tell you, it's easier, it's much easier for a teacher to teach something to your child than it is for a parent, and I think one of the reasons we have teachers is because there's this emotional bond somehow that, you know, if your child isn't doing …”

“There's a way I feel like parents don't usually get to reap the total harvest of their hard work, because as soon as the kids are self-sufficient, they go.”

“Expose your child in teen years to as many of your friends who might be possible role models as possible. Like at some margin, they're just not going to listen to you anymore. They're not going to watch your behavior anymore. They know what you're about. They'…”

“Because my identity as a parent is wrapped up in your success. Paul Assaiante: No question about it.”

“Like, we don't reproduce. We produce, and this kid is a stranger, and our job is to kind of get to know them. But the word reproduction brings, like, right from the start, brings up very different fantasies for us.”

“Because your public voice will one day be their inner voice, which controls their destiny, their belief in themselves, their joy and happiness in life.”

“Parents are pouring in way more time to their kids than the previous generations.”

“They have so little confidence right now because we've done, because the mental health industry has done everything it can to divest them of any sense that they know what they're doing.”

“Don't push them away, because if you keep pushing them away, by the time they're seven or eight and they actually can start kind of helping, they're not stupid. They're like, that's not my job. You know, like you've pushed me away for six years. Why would I he…”

“The tech industry has all this knowledge and tools and goals about technology and how it affects your brain and it affects children's brain more that way because of, you know, they're not as developed. And parents have none of it right now. It's a really, real…”

“Most society's parents don't play with children.”

“We're expecting rightfully so for parents to spend a lot of time with their children, but the world is not conducive to that at all, unless you've retired or you're not working.”