Parents Must Expose Children to Suffering to Raise Altruistic Adults
Dacher Keltner · #29 Dacher Keltner: Survival of the Kindest · Feb 21, 2018 · at 1:09:43
Dacher Keltner discusses the counterintuitive parenting finding that sheltering children from suffering hinders prosocial and empathic development.
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“I think it's important for parents to let kids Experience suffering and to see suffering, right? To recognize that there's pain that this is part of the human condition, because that's really what activates a lot of the pro-social stuff is suffering. And, you know, they're really cool qualitative studies of families who raise really altruistic adults, and they tend to have a, they tend to suffering and remedying suffering as a part of their family conversation”
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