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John Gottman

5 statements across 4 episodes · 0 bullish · 0 bearish · 4 people on the record · first statement Feb 19, 2019 by Dr. Laura Markham · said 24 times in 9 episodes since 2019 · across every show →

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brought up most by Sheila Heen (7), Emily Nagoski (5), Hannah Fry (4), Dr. Laura Markham (3), Randall Stutman (2), Suzanne Iasenza (1), Dr. Becky Kennedy (1), Blake Eastman (1)

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Feb 19, 2019 neutral
Assertion Supported
Markham: Gottman Research Shows Most Parents React Destructively to Kids' Emotions
“Gottman's huge finding was that parents tend to react to kids' emotions in not very constructive ways.”
Dr. Laura Markham Feb 19, 2019 ▶ 38:40 #52 Dr. Laura Markham: Peaceful Parenting with
May 15, 2019 neutral
Insight
Heen: The Optimal Positive-to-Negative Interaction Ratio in Relationships Is 5:1
“The optimum is, what is it, five to one? Five to one, positive interactions to negative interactions, and it's not better to have a bigger ratio of positive and negative, like 10 to one is not better because of what you're describing. If it's 10 positive inter…”
Sheila Heen May 15, 2019 ▶ 1:22:55 #57 Sheila Heen: Decoding Difficult Conversations
May 15, 2019 neutral
Insight
Heen: Two-Thirds of Marital Conflicts Are Perpetual and Unsolvable Differences
“About two-thirds of what you fight about are not solvable. They just reflect differences between you.”
Sheila Heen May 15, 2019 ▶ 1:15:34 #57 Sheila Heen: Decoding Difficult Conversations
Sep 17, 2019
Assertion Partly supported
Nagoski: Gottman's research shows women manage the emotions in heterosexual relationships
“What John Gottman's research shows is that women are indeed in heterosexual relationships, the managers of the emotions in the relationship, responsible for, like, down-regulating the men”
Emily Nagoski Sep 17, 2019 ▶ 1:16:12 #66 Dr. Emily Nagoski: Pleasure is the Measure
Jul 7, 2020
Assertion Supported
Fry: Couples with low negativity thresholds have better long-term relationship success
“Turns out, though, when you actually look in the data, the exact opposite is true. So the chances the people who have the best chance at long-term success are actually the people who've got really low negativity thresholds. So these instead, they're the people…”
Hannah Fry Jul 7, 2020 ▶ 47:08 #87 Hannah Fry: The Role of Algorithms
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