marriage

“What you find is that people are about half as likely to be married in their twenties. They're less likely to be cohabitating. They're less likely to be having sex. They're less likely to say they're in love than ever before.”

“There was early data that turns out to not have been replicated very well, that men are happier when they're married than women are, that, that, that marriage is good for men, but it's not good for women. That's wrong. It's good for both.”

“That leads to graphs like this, which show you that over time, if you are never married, and if you were married and never divorced, there is a delta of somewhere between 300,000 to a million dollars in net worth, which is kind of crazy.”

“So I could make a pretty easy legal argument with the divorce rate about 53%. That it is definitely negligent, possibly reckless to get married.”

“But really, like, love is loaned. Like, your husband's love is loaned to you, and your love is loaned to him. It's not permanently gifted. And your marriage will end. Every marriage ends. It ends in death or divorce.”

“The first time most people learn what legally happened when they got married is when they're getting divorced.”

“It's a terrible line that everybody says at the wedding, like the uncle who says it at the wedding, I should pay him a dividend. He's like, hey, he made a lot of money for me. But it really is. I mean, if anything, it should be happy spouse, happy house. But e…”

“If you actually want to change the divorce rate, we have to create barriers to entry.”

“Infidelity is a symptom. Of the problem. The problem is almost always the same. Disconnection. Disconnection from self, and then disconnection from the other person. Because the two biggest problems are, we don't know what we want, and we don't know how to exp…”

“And sex, I think, is the glue. In marriages. Otherwise just be roommates.”

“I personally think marrying well is, like, the single highest leveraged decision of your entire life. And also not marrying well is also a very high leverage decision. Like, it just, it is just the force multiplier on all of your outcomes across life, and it's…”

“Marriage is the most important part of your startup. The most important thing that you do, that's your most important acquisition.”

“That's one of the reasons that the happiest marriage is one of the characteristics is that they, that the partners get more religious across the decades together. They get more religious together, right?”

“You know, 50% or so of marriages end catastrophically, meaning they divorce. Another 10 to 20% either separate but never file for divorce, go out for milk and never come back, or they just sort of unhappily stay together and under surveys basically say, yeah, …”

“I've always said like, to me, the sound of a marriage that's about to end is, is like, it's a very simple, subtle sound. It's this, it's what? Huh? Yeah, whatever. Like, it's a tone of voice more than a content. And the tone of voice says everything. It's like…”

“Marriage is a symbol. That's all it is. It's a symbol. We've decided we're gonna create this legal connection or spiritual connection that's gonna symbolize this way of keeping the relationship safe. It's an illusion. It's not real.”