Sexton: Spousal love is loaned rather than permanently gifted
James Sexton · Divorce Expert: The Early Signs of Infidelity | James Sexton · Nov 26, 2025 · at 16:19
Divorce attorney James Sexton explains to Codie Sanchez how viewing marital love as temporary—ending only in death or divorce—changes relationship dynamics.
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“But really, like, love is loaned. Like, your husband's love is loaned to you, and your love is loaned to him. It's not permanently gifted. And your marriage will end. Every marriage ends. It ends in death or divorce.”
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