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“In places where children have autonomy, parents give children, like, two to three verbal inputs in an hour. And I've done it on myself, I've done it with parents in San Francisco, and we are talking about, like, a 120 verbal inputs per hour.”

“And this professor at Harvard has, like, tracked down the rise of the nuclear family correlates with how long ago the Catholic Church was brought into a society. And so Europe is the longest, and you see this very strong nuclear family, and then other parts of…”

“Don't push them away, because if you keep pushing them away, by the time they're seven or eight and they actually can start kind of helping, they're not stupid. They're like, that's not my job. You know, like you've pushed me away for six years. Why would I he…”

“There was this idea that, like, The reason why kids started to use drugs and misbehave is because they had poor self-esteem, and that the way to help kids was to have, was to praise them, have, that gives them good self-esteem, but there was, the data don't su…”

“When you're managing your child, when you're kind of their personal assistant, and you're managing their time, like, blocked hour by hour, you're kind of doing them a disservice, because you're, they're not able to learn this skill of, like, what do I do next?”

“Most society's parents don't play with children.”

“It's interesting because all the data show that when they get the phone, it makes them more lonely. It makes them more isolated.”

“The tech industry has all this knowledge and tools and goals about technology and how it affects your brain and it affects children's brain more that way because of, you know, they're not as developed. And parents have none of it right now. It's a really, real…”

“They don't have the mental capacity to carry a phone into their room and not go to bed.”

“Parenting books today, you can trace all the way back to those pamphlets. It's really incredible. And, of course, they weren't. The way you raise children in a home, you know, in a family, they were for these institutions, basically.”

“And it's funny because I always say, like, it doesn't take a village. It takes, like, five extra people. Like, you know, because if you look in some societies, so they're called alloparents. This is what scientists call them. They're people in children's lives…”

“What motivates kids, and there's a lot of data to support this, what motivates kids is having them actually contribute to your life. You know, having them be part of your life and contribute in it.”

“The way it works in the brain is, is it narrows your desires and wants to this one thing. That's what happens over time.”

“So the only way you can bring back these other things into their life is to create environments where their brain knows they can't have it.”

“One thing is that just because a child wants it doesn't mean it's actually, like, pleasurable. And so, I think a lot of parents think that they, oh, they want it so much that they like it. Right? And that's just wrong. That's based off, like, fifty-year-old Ne…”

“One of the neuroscientists who studies dopamine in the eyes told me three hours before bedtime. And so I started doing, I mean, it's crazy, right? That's like seven o'clock, right? And I started doing it, like, maybe in November? And I, Shane, I sleep like I'v…”