Doucleff: A child craving screen time does not mean they enjoy it
Michaeleen Doucleff · #197 Michaeleen Doucleff: The 4 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make · Jun 25, 2024 · at 49:52
Author Michaeleen Doucleff explains dopamine and reward mechanisms regarding children and digital devices.
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“One thing is that just because a child wants it doesn't mean it's actually, like, pleasurable. And so, I think a lot of parents think that they, oh, they want it so much that they like it. Right? And that's just wrong. That's based off, like, fifty-year-old Neuroscience.”
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