The Ledger, every show

“You're based, you're constantly building trust, and how do you build trust? You take risks with each other, you show yourself, you're open and accessible, and you take risks with each other, and when one of you takes a risk, the other one responds.”

“Accessibility, responsiveness, and engagement, ARE the variables in research that predict the safety of a bond, any bond between any two people of any age, right?”

“Avoidance is a lousy strategy with emotional problems. I'm not just talking about marriage. I'm talking about anything. Depression, anxiety. It's lousy strategy, ok? It's, it sets you up. You never face the problem, so you never have any new corrective experie…”

“And if people have a secure bond, they can manage those transitions because they're open and they can look at them together. When they don't have a secure bond, those transitions exacerbate all the distance between.”