Kenneth Berger
Executive Coach and Founder, Kenneth Berger Coaching. On 1 show, 1 appearance. The Shows tab opens the full record on each.
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Kenneth Berger coaches startup founders and executives on conflict resolution, preventing burnout, and mastering intentional leadership. He is best known as the first product manager at Slack and as an entrepreneur who founded a venture-backed startup.
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Everything Kenneth Berger said on any show that made the record, most notable first. Each card names its show and opens the statement there.
Berger: Expert gut instincts are as valuable as SQL database insights
“Even though that gut information to me is just as important as anything we can get from, you know, The SQL database or whatever.”
Berger: I was fired from Slack three separate times
“I was fired from Slack three different times, which I feel like has to be some kind of startup record.”
Berger: Fear-driven motivation is dysfunctional for modern knowledge work
“Fear is for when there's a tiger chasing you and there's no tiger chasing me. I'm sitting in my office in a desk chair on a zoom call, right? Like there's no real danger here. And so fear is not particularly functional.”
Berger: Pure discipline is merely a short-term coping strategy
“It's not that discipline doesn't work, right? But it's like people pleasing. It's a short term it's a short term coping strategy. Like discipline will get you in the gym for a week, but it's not going to get you in the gym for a year, right? The people who are…”
Berger: Regularly making requests prevents self-deception and frustration
“And I think to me, the flip side of that is, is sort of the reason that the stakes around asking for what you want are so high because yeah, you know, if you're, we can't guarantee we're going to get what we want, but if we're asking for it regularly, if we're…”
Berger: Entering meetings convinced you are right is fundamentally disrespectful
“It's fundamentally disrespectful to go into a meeting already deciding that you're right and the other person is wrong, right? Because you can't know that for sure, right? There's always a new perspective, new data that could come in. And so you want that conv…”
Berger: People-pleasing offers short-term safety but costs long-term fulfillment
“I mean, I think the people pleaser coping strategy is one of the sort of most classic and it is effective, right? In the short term, right? Like, oh, you can feel safe and calm when other people are generally happy with you. And the cost tends to be long-term.”
Berger: Every workplace complaint implies a dream of a better world
“And so the magic of that complaining is that every complaint implies a dream, right? It implies a better world where that complaint is resolved.”
Berger: Treat any commitment short of a 'hell yes' as a no
“And so I think part of what I encourage people to do is one, to really hear anything short of a hell yes as a no, right? And so it's not a bad thing, right? Mostly the world tells us no. It's actually really great data. It helps us figure out what are we going…”
Berger: Founders must pursue meaningful goals without outcome attachment
“If you're a startup founder, you've got to be okay with, I'm just going to go for this. And I know I probably won't get it, but it's so meaningful to me. I'm going to go for it anyway. And so to me, that's not just about The big picture of running a startup. I…”
Berger: Respecting employees means letting them face consequences of their choices
“Part of Really respecting them is respecting that they can make the choices they want and they're grownups enough that they can deal with the consequences of those choices.”
Berger: Asking clearly with humility works whether in power or not
“I think one of the most important balances in terms of the asking step is both asking clearly, but asking with great humility. And this actually works whether you're in a position of power or not, because I think a lot of folks will go so far to the end of hum…”
Berger: Pair feedback with explicit requests for specific outcomes
“Where I try to go a step further than radical candor is to not just say, hey, here's my feedback, you know, just wanting you to know, but to say, and I want something, right? Like I would like to see an outcome.”
Berger: Overcoming resistance requires validating internal fear rather than suppressing it
“To sort of ask effectively, we generally need to embrace all these parts and really bring in all the information they're bringing in. Because if we ignore the part that's really scared to ask, well, yeah, then we're going to stay stuck.”
Berger: A 'no' only reflects specific timing, phrasing, and individuals
“The no is just from this person right now in the way that you asked. Which doesn't necessarily mean anything about the next time you ask to a different person in a different way in a different time.”
Berger: Assume your erratic founder is simply terrified by high stakes
“My clue to people who report to a founder is to say, imagine if you're confused about How your founder is behaving. Imagine that they're terrified all the time, right? And see if that makes their behavior more clear. Because it is scary to be a founder, right?…”
Berger: Psychological resistance makes asking for what you want difficult
“What's hard there is the resistance, right? The parts of us that are not so excited about that, the things asking for what we want is scary and articulating a big dream that we might not get is, is really scary. Cause God, what if I don't get it? What does tha…”
Berger: Tuning into subtle discomfort helps clarify unstated desires
“For those folks, often what I'm encouraging to do is to really tune into the parts of them that maybe aren't so fine. Like, gosh, I, I'd really, you know, I prefer it a little bit if things were this way, or I'm a little bit bothered by this, or I'm a little b…”
Berger: Demanding zero risk of upsetting others stalls effective communication
“That question of, oh, how do I do it without there being any risk of ever pissing anyone off? That's a piece of the resistance right there. And so this is a great example of the type of work that we have to do, right? Because, you know, in theory, asking is ea…”
Berger: Clear asks require sticking strictly to facts and direct observations
“There's kind of rough consensus, you know, in, in the sort of personal development world of how to ask, and really what they have in common is around kind of staying really factual, because, you know, I think that, you know, what can we know factually? Well, w…”
Berger: You cannot be influential while maintaining bad relationships
“And when we're talking about asking for what we want, we're talking about influence. So you need to have good relationships. You can't be influential with bad relationships.”
Berger: Founders should hold relationship design talks with first 10-20 hires
“And it's actually something that I recommend to a lot of founders for, you know, maybe their first, you know, 10 or 15 or 20 employees of just have like a relationship design conversation with each of them when they're first hired.”
Berger: Managerial entitlement stems from failing to ask for what you want
“One mode of not asking for what you want well is kind of holding back and not really saying it out loud. And I think another really common mode is coming with a lot of entitlement of like, you know what? You better do what I say. I'm your boss. You're my repor…”
Berger: High-stakes anxiety fixates people on fears rather than goals
“Often when the stakes feel high, we're kind of focused more on the fear of what we don't want to happen than on actually achieving what we do want, right? And that's a really critical distinction, right? Because You know, if we're running away from our fears, …”
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