Anger
topic on 2 shows · 7 statements across 4 episodes
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Lenny's Podcast
7 statements about Anger, every show
Parrish: Disproportionate anger often stems from violated fairness expectations
“When someone responds with disproportionate anger about something small, often it's because their sense of fairness was violated.”
Mochary: Saying 'I perceive you to be in anger' de-escalates defensiveness
“And then finally she said, I perceive you to be in anger. So it's an I statement and it's simply what she's perceiving. There's no judgment. And that was able to punch through my anger. And then I woke up and went, oh, and then I stopped and just didn't act un…”
Mochary: Anger is a defense mechanism covering unprocessed emotional pain
“Anger is actually a cover. It's a cover for when we feel pain. And so our brain doesn't want to feel the pain. So instead it externalizes it. But the problem is it shoves that pain onto everybody else around us. And so the real answer here is not to have peopl…”
Hudson: Present Anger Lasts Seconds While Repressed Anger Lasts a Lifetime
“So anger, if we're present with anger, it only lasts a few seconds. When we're not present with anger, it can last our whole life.”
Hudson: Violent Outbursts Indicate Lack of Connection With Underlying Anger
“The people going around smashing things and attacking people are not in touch with their anger. It's going instantly into a behavior, and that's how they've learned to control it, but that's not the same as being with it.”
Hudson: Processed Anger Transmutes Into Empowerment and Truth-Telling
“When anger is presence, it transmutes into empowerment and confidence and the ability to take a stand, to have a voice, to speak your truth. People who can't be in touch with their anger have trouble with all of those things.”