anger
2 statements across 1 episodes · 0 bullish · 0 bearish · 1 people on the record · first statement Nov 10, 2022 by Matt Mochary · across every show →
Everything said about anger, oldest first
Nov 10, 2022
Mochary: Anger is a defense mechanism covering unprocessed emotional pain
“Anger is actually a cover. It's a cover for when we feel pain. And so our brain doesn't want to feel the pain. So instead it externalizes it. But the problem is it shoves that pain onto everybody else around us. And so the real answer here is not to have peopl…”
Nov 10, 2022
Mochary: Saying 'I perceive you to be in anger' de-escalates defensiveness
“And then finally she said, I perceive you to be in anger. So it's an I statement and it's simply what she's perceiving. There's no judgment. And that was able to punch through my anger. And then I woke up and went, oh, and then I stopped and just didn't act un…”