Coughlin: Polarities require managing interconnected needs over time, not either-or choices
Carolyn Coughlin · Carolyn Coughlin: Become A Better Listener · Jan 24, 2023 · at 1:04:34
Executive coach Carolyn Coughlin explains Barry Johnson's polarity management framework on The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish.
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“So, a polarity, it's two things that are like an energy system in that they are inherently interconnected, and to get the best outcomes over time, you need both.”
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