Coughlin: Language actively shapes human meaning-making rather than just expressing it
Carolyn Coughlin · Carolyn Coughlin: Become A Better Listener · Jan 24, 2023 · at 8:02
Executive coach Carolyn Coughlin discusses how changing habitual word choices reshapes internal psychology and adult development.
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“Our language is not just an expression of our meaning making, but it also shapes our meaning making.”
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