Perel: Father survived 14 camps by organizing kitchen black market
Esther Perel · #71 Esther Perel: Cultivating Desire · Dec 10, 2019 · at 4:20
Psychotherapist Esther Perel describes to Shane Parrish how her father survived imprisonment across 14 Nazi concentration camps during World War II.
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“My dad the last year and a half in one of the camps, he was in 14 of them basically organized some kind of a black market with the kitchen around You know, food and potatoes, or potato peels more correctly, and managed to actually feed the Germans as well.”
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