Gurner: Not fitting in socially acts as a forcing function for outliers
Dr. Julie Gurner · Dr. Julie Gurner (Part 1): Caring Deeply, Challenging Directly · Jun 27, 2023 · at 38:25
Executive coach Dr. Julie Gurner discusses common behavioral patterns and personality traits observed in elite high performers with host Shane Parrish.
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“I think that they tend to be very quirky people as individuals, and I think it almost is a forcing function to pushing them where they end up going, right? Like if you're somebody who easily, I often wonder, and this is just my own theory, right? Like if you're somebody who easily fits in the crowd and you're somebody who's very much like the people, I think it's easy to kind of tampen other areas of your life to be a part of those people, and to be a part of those communities, and to be socializing, and doing all those things, and these are often people who are a little quirky, and maybe aren't the most popular person in high school but they are all smart, and they are all you know, really focused.”
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