Logan Ury
Director of Relationship Science, Hinge · 2 appearances on the record.
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A Harvard-educated behavioral scientist and former leader of Google's Irrational Lab, she applies behavioral economics to modern dating as Director of Relationship Science at Hinge. She authored the bestselling book How to Not Die Alone and appeared as a dating coach on Netflix's The Later Daters.
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Ury: Securely attached people leave dating pools faster, skewing remaining demographics
“What happens is 50% of the population is secure, which sounds like a good thing, but those people are so good at being in relationships that they often get snatched up, and you have the anxious and avoidant people dating each other.”
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Everything Logan Ury said on the Knowledge Project that made the record, most notable first. Filter by type, assessment or year in the ledger →
Ury: Prioritizing looks in dating fails because novelty decays
“And so it's just this idea of, yes, a lot of what is sexually exciting to people is novelty. And so instead of being disappointed or frustrated by that in a monogamous long-term relationship, you can just think about the fact that I acknowledge that that will …”
Ury: Prioritize Dating Earlier When Lifestyle Flexibility and Dating Pools Are Larger
“Start prioritizing dating when you're younger. You have a more flexible lifestyle. You have a bigger population of single people to choose from”
Ury: Persistent 40-50% divorce rate shows traditional marriage needs rethinking
“With the divorce rate being at 40 to 50% over the last 40 years, we've really seen that this one-size-fits-all version of marriage Doesn't work for most people. So if you have a product and 50% of people are returning it, then maybe you need to rework that pro…”
Logan Ury: Soulmates do not exist and multiple partners can work
“There's not really such thing as the right choice. I don't believe in soulmates. I think that you could have many great relationships with many great people, and you get to decide, is this the person that I want to do it with?”
Ury: Securely attached people leave dating pools faster, skewing remaining demographics
“What happens is 50% of the population is secure, which sounds like a good thing, but those people are so good at being in relationships that they often get snatched up, and you have the anxious and avoidant people dating each other.”
Ury: Early Romantic Chemistry Is Often Anxiety Triggered by Ambiguity
“The second myth is that if you feel the spark, it's definitely a good thing, and actually, sometimes certain people give us the spark because we actually don't know how they feel about us, so sort of that hot, cold feeling makes us wonder, does he like me? Doe…”
Logan Ury: Long-Term Partners Define the Version of Yourself You Become
“And probably the most important one, what side of me did they bring out? Because whatever side of you are with that person is who you'll be for a big majority of your life if you end up with that person.”
Ury: Dating like a scientist to test partner assumptions yields happier outcomes
“Being more in touch with who you are, how you show up in different situations, what personality traits trigger you to feel more anxious or insecure, all of that is data that just helps you be a happier person, and so something that I really promote people do i…”
Ury: Only 14% of US men are six feet or taller
“In the United States, only 14% of men are six feet or taller.”
Ury: Second dates come from creating fun experiences, not physical attractiveness
“So one thing that I've done through my research is look at people who are consistently getting asked on second or third dates. Look at people who people really are drawn to, and when I talk to these people, it's not what you might think. They're the tallest pe…”
Ury: Maintaining old friendships is a proxy for partner loyalty
“Of course, that's a hard thing to find out on a first date, but one proxy for that that I found is asking people about old friendships. People who have friendships from different phases of their life, do they hang on to people, or when they move, do they let t…”
Logan Ury: Young generations lack rejection resilience needed in dating and life
“I am genuinely concerned that because of different societal factors, because of people who maybe lost out on some social skills during the pandemic, because of people who live a lot of their lives online, there is not that rejection resilience that many of us …”
Ury: Anxious and avoidant daters trap each other in a reinforcing loop
“And so, for those avoidant attached people who think that they're gonna be smothered, and then for the Anxiously attached people who think they're going to be abandoned, what ends up happening is they often date each other, and they reinforce this idea. So I t…”
Ury: Fifty percent of the population has a secure attachment style
“What happens is, 50% of the population is secure, which sounds like a good thing, but those people are so good at being in relationships that they often get snatched up, and you have the anxious and avoidant people dating each other.”
Ury: Dating requires matching the partner's momentum rather than advancing unilaterally
“And a lot of dating that people miss is that it's about matching somebody's momentum, And matching somebody's speed. So it's a dance where I take a step forward, and then you need to take a step forward. If I take 10 steps forward, you might feel overwhelmed a…”
Ury: Hinge data shows optimal chatting window before calling is three days
“We've actually found that the sweet spot is after three days of chatting, just say, hey, I always walk my dog at six p.m., can I give you a phone call, or do you want to FaceTime for a few minutes tonight?”
Ury: Sharing emotions and stories on first dates outperforms sharing biographical facts
“And so I think oftentimes when people are less experienced with first date conversations, they share the facts about their lives, and it's not memorable, and it's boring, and really think about the emotions, and the feelings, and the stories behind those facts…”
Ury: Around 25% of People Can Shift Their Attachment Style Over Time
“Around 25% of people are able to shift their attachment over time.”
Hinge Research: Double Texting Is Acceptable When Dating
“We did do research at Hinge looking at to what are the most commonly agreed upon parts of digital body language. So one of them is that actually the double text is okay.”
Ury: Incompatible Texting Capacities Can Break Relationship Compatibility
“I think that you need to understand as a person the maximum amount of text that you're willing to give and the minimum that you're willing to take. And if the minimum that you need is not within somebody's maximum, you may not be a fit.”
Ury: Multi-dating helps anxiously attached daters relax and avoid premature fixation
“So there are people out there that are really anxiously attached, and when they meet someone, their brain goes into, I need to lock it down. I don't want to date anymore, so I just want to date them. So how can I become exclusive with them? And for those peopl…”
Ury: Couples should deliberately decide rather than slide through relationship milestones
“I want people to make conscious choices. I want them to be deciding, not sliding through relationship transitions.”
Ury: Shared political views have become a proxy for core values in dating
“Fast forward to this year, I would say that's no longer the case, that people really do care about political views, because it's moved into the category of values, and so people are really thinking about if we share political views, that's a proxy for do we sh…”
Logan Ury: Outsourcing Emotional Needs to Social Networks Creates Happier Marriages
“There's this concept called other significant others, which is this idea that It came from research from Eli Finkel and Elaine Chung at Northwestern, and you basically say to a couple, you know, who are the different people that you go to in your lives for dif…”
Appearances (2)
| Episode | Date | Speaking time |
|---|---|---|
| Be Your Best in 2026: The Most Important Lessons from The Knowledge Project (2025) | Dec 23, 2025 | 5m |
| Logan Ury: The Dating Myths You Need to Stop Believing | Mar 18, 2025 | 1h 31m |