Ury: Persistent 40-50% divorce rate shows traditional marriage needs rethinking
Logan Ury · Logan Ury: The Dating Myths You Need to Stop Believing · Mar 18, 2025 · at 1:10:47
Logan Ury, behavioral scientist and relationship director at Hinge, discusses why alternative relationship models like polyamory and consensual non-monogamy have gained traction.
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“With the divorce rate being at 40 to 50% over the last 40 years, we've really seen that this one-size-fits-all version of marriage Doesn't work for most people. So if you have a product and 50% of people are returning it, then maybe you need to rework that product.”
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