Suzanne Iasenza
19 statements across 1 episodes · 5 bullish · 0 bearish · 1 people on the record · first statement Feb 4, 2020 by Suzanne Iasenza · across every show →
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Feb 4, 2020
Iasenza: Most people define sex strictly by genitals, penetration, and orgasm
“Most people, because that's the narrative we're taught, is usually the definition of sex is genital. It has to involve the genitals, sometimes has to involve penetration, not always, and has to end an orgasm. Those three components usually are the most common …”
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Iasenza: Partner Acceptance Does Not Eliminate Internal Shame in Withholding Secrets
“Even if the partner really proves to be truly a loving, non-judgmental partner, that doesn't mean that the self is that understanding. So it could be more of a conflict within the self about why someone can't put words to it.”
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Iasenza: All sex is group sex involving generational trauma and attachment histories
“All sex is group sex, and they laugh, and I said, well, this is what I mean. You think you're in bed alone with your partner. You're not. You're in bed with your trauma history or attachment history, your trauma history or attachment history, your mother and f…”
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Iasenza: Sexual Experiences Fit Three Distinct Models Beyond Orgasm
“Look, you have at least three different models out there, narratives, what sex is. You could say desire ending in orgasm, that's the more traditional one. Ok, nothing wrong with it. If it works, you're great. If it works for both, you're great. But there are t…”
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Iasenza: Sexual arousal can increase in long-term relationships into one's eighties
“For some people, the in a long-term relationship, they might even be more aroused by their partner in their, I work with some people in their eighties. It's so great to work with the eight-year-olds because for some people, they love, they fall in love with th…”
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Iasenza: Lack of commitment after resolved issues signals desire to leave
“And sometimes you could see each thing gets better, but a half of the couple might not still be committed, more committed. And more happy. That can give you a clue that there could be still something about this person really doesn't want to be here.”
Feb 4, 2020 neutral
Iasenza: Expecting Reciprocal Sex Leads Many Couples to Avoid It
“You don't have to always have, be, have reciprocal sex every time you do it. That's also a burden. Many couples don't have sex because one of the partners may not want to, ah, let's say, be up for an orgasm, or even be able to experience arousal that easily, s…”
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Iasenza: Couples with kids must treat their relationship as another child
“I often say to couples with kids, the relationship's another child. You don't have one child, you have two. It's called your child named, you know, Mary, and then you have a relation, a marital relationship to still nurture, and people don't get that a relatio…”
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Iasenza: Sexual initiation patterns are more socially constructed than biologically determined
“Yeah, I think it really, probably most sex therapists would say it's more socially constructed than biologically determined, even though, yes, Cisgendered men have more testosterone in their systems than cisgendered women, let's say.”
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Iasenza: Sexually active 80-year-olds maintain intimacy by deconstructing sex beyond mechanics
“Older people usually who are still erotic and sexually together at 80 know how to deconstruct sex, because they've just had to. Over time, the body parts might not work because of illnesses or medications or things that happen, and if they're really still got …”
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Iasenza: Resistant relationship narratives typically stem from deep-seated trauma or childhood wounds
“As I begin to do narrative therapy very early on, by starting to deconstruct how they're saying a problem exists, and the stories, and so forth, some things will shift fairly rapidly, but some will be quite resistant. And those are the ones that then are usual…”
Feb 4, 2020 neutral
Iasenza: Individual Sessions Help Couples Surface Secrets Safely Before Joint Therapy
“That's why with couples often whether they're, especially if they present with sexual issues, but even if not, sometimes I will do some individual sessions for history, or just for them to tell me a little bit more about a particular problem, because sometimes…”