identity
11 statements across 9 episodes · 4 bullish · 1 bearish · 8 people on the record · first statement May 15, 2019 by Sheila Heen · across every show →
Everything said about identity, oldest first
May 15, 2019
Heen: Difficult conversations are driven by perceived threats to personal identity
“If a conversation feels difficult, there's often something about identity, something the situation suggests about you that raises the stakes on the whole conversation. And so that's part of the anxiety that then drives the intensity of the feelings.”
Jun 1, 2021 positive
Dec 21, 2021 positive
Adam Grant: Identity should be anchored in values rather than beliefs
“I think that for me, an identity is not about what you believe, it's about what you value. And so I want to have a set of principles. For me, my highest values are generosity, excellence, integrity, and freedom. And I am completely flexible on the best ways to…”
May 31, 2022
Jun 27, 2023 negative
Gurner: Tying identity solely to business leaves founders vulnerable to collapse
“If you have only one leg of a stool, it's easy to kick out, right? So, like, if you say, hey, everything that I am is my business, and you put your identity in that, it's when your business does poorly or it collapses, it just, it shakes you. If you have multi…”
Nov 28, 2023 positive
Formulating distinct missions for specific life roles beats having one overarching mission
“And that goes to the power of isolating our identity. If I say like, Hey, what's your, what Todd, what's your mission as a coach? Todd, what's your mission as a CEO? What's your mission? And then at the end, when I maybe write out these eight different mission…”
Nov 28, 2023
Children lack personal identity until roughly age seven and a half
“Our concept of me and myself and stuff is a lot of times carried out and formed before the age of eight. Now, a child has no concept of me. They don't even, they don't think of themselves as having an identity until around seven and a half when the frontal lob…”
Feb 6, 2024
Jul 9, 2024 positive
Shankar: Anchoring Identity to 'Why' Creates a More Resilient Sense of Self
“The challenge becomes, though, when you anchor yourself to something that is precarious in some way, and that's what I found with the violin. What I strive to do, because it's very much a works in progress, but I hope this resonates for your listeners, is to a…”
Jul 9, 2024
Shankar: Cultivating Layered Identities Protects Self-Worth Against Career Disruptions
“What I'm proposing is having multifaceted identities. So you have multiple layers of abstraction when it comes to where you derive meaning and how you define yourself. And so at one level, you can absolutely say, okay, I'm a lawyer, I'm a doctor, a stay at hom…”