Matt Abrahams
Lecturer, Stanford Graduate School of Business. On 2 shows, 2 appearances. The Shows tab opens the full record on each.
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Matt Abrahams is a Lecturer in Organizational Behavior at Stanford Graduate School of Business and the host of the Think Fast, Talk Smart podcast. He is the author of Think Faster, Talk Smarter and advises executives on high-stakes communication.
2shows
2appearances
41statements
7resolved
6supported
1contradicted
86%fully supported
Everything Matt Abrahams said on any show that made the record, most notable first. Each card names its show and opens the statement there.
Abrahams: Pitches Should Lead With Ideas, Not Founder Bios
“When I see pitches, a lot of people put their bios and their experience up front. I'm not a big fan of that. I want people to tell me what the idea is, what the value is, and then let me know who you are versus who are you up front.”
Abrahams: Classic influence advice risks sounding manipulative and inauthentic
“I know the book. Some of the stuff, I, some of that stuff has been true for a long time. Some of the stuff, I'm not a big fan of ingratiation and manipulation. So I like authenticity and some of the advice in books like that can sound like smile, nod your head…”
Abrahams: Speaking anxiety can never be truly eliminated, only managed
“I don't think we can ever truly overcome it, as your example shows. Having anxiety tells us that what we're doing is important, gives us energy, helps us focus, but we have to manage it so it doesn't manage us.”
Abrahams: Calendar Invites Are the Best Underused Expectation-Setting Tool
“I think the single best expectation setting tool for communication that we seldom use is the calendar invite.”
Abrahams: Meetings are often band-aids for deeper organizational issues
“Meetings are often band-aids for bigger problems.”
Abrahams: Facilitating meetings is the hardest communication skill
“I actually think facilitation meeting, leading meetings, moderating panels, anytime you're facilitating others, communicating what you're doing right now, I think it's the hardest communication skill because you have to manage so much simultaneously.”
Abrahams: Use LLMs to generate interview practice questions, not draft answers
“Leverage AI. LLMs can be really helpful, not to help you create answers. That's not what I'm looking for, but to help you get questions to practice.”
Abrahams: Condensing a 30-minute talk into five minutes requires separate practice
“People think I can, you know, if I can do a 30 minute presentation, I can do it in five. Not at all. It's very different. And so you have to get that experience and you have to practice it.”
Abrahams: Younger people are better at managing multi-modal public communication
“And I think younger people have an advantage over those of us who are older and that they're used to managing personas in different modalities, much more so than I am.”
Abrahams: Striving for connection over perfection frees cognitive bandwidth
“Strive for connection over perfection. By daring to be dull, just get the task done. Just answer the question. Just give the feedback. Just be engaged in the small talk. And by doing that, you dial down the volume of self-evaluation, freeing up resources that …”
Abrahams: Anxiety and excitement trigger the identical physiological response
“When you get physically aroused by anxiety, you're under that fight or flight threat response. It turns out that same response Happens to your body when you're excited. The human body has pretty much just one arousal response. Our heart beats faster. We breath…”
Abrahams: Cursing releases neurochemicals that blunt cortisol and lower anxiety
“There's research that says that when you swear curse, it actually helps you reduce anxiety. When you curse, you release a flood of neurochemicals that blunt out the neurochemicals associated with anxiety, cortisol being a big one. So you get a big dopamine hit…”
Abrahams: Improving at spontaneous speaking requires deliberate preparation
“You actually have to prepare to be spontaneous and that's counterintuitive, but it is through preparation that we get better at it.”
Abrahams: Improv training is about presence and collaboration, not comedy
“When people hear improv, they think oh, I gotta be funny and it's about performing and it's not. Improv is really just about being more comfortable, Being present and really focusing on collaborating with others”
Abrahams: Small talk requires reciprocal depth of personal disclosure
“One rule is the one that you shared that in small talk, there should be a balance of disclosure or depth of disclosure over time. So if you're telling me about the first time your first pet died, and I'm telling you my favorite color is blue, there's a discrep…”
Abrahams: Conversations require more supporting than shifting responses
“And the goal in a good conversation is to have more supporting responses than shifting, but to have some shifting responses. Because if all I do is continually support you, it looks like I don't want to share. I'm not being disclosive at all.”
Abrahams: Constructive feedback should follow the Four Is framework
“So in the four I structure, the first I is information. You're just setting the playing field, so the person knows what you're giving the feedback about. The second is impact, and this is impact on you, the feedback giver. The third is the invitation that you …”
Abrahams: Avoid ending Q&A responses with 'does that make sense?'
“One is saying good question to every question, and two at the end of answering the question saying, does that make sense? Because in both cases, you're trying to validate the asker when you say good question. You're also trying to buy yourself time and there a…”
Abrahams: Saying 'sorry you feel bad' fails to assume responsibility
“And when we apologize, we need to make sure that we apologize for the transgression and not for how we made people feel. So often people will simply say, I'm sorry that you feel bad. Well, that's not an apology that, that that's, you know, you're not, Assuming…”
Abrahams: Up to 85% of people experience communication anxiety across all cultures
“We have some evidence that suggests up to 85% of people feel anxiety, and quite frankly, I think the other 15% are lying. Those of us who study it have found it in every culture we've studied.”
Abrahams: Exhaling twice as long as inhaling rapidly reduces speaking anxiety
“Deep belly breathing really can help. It slows down your autonomic nervous system. It slows down your breath rate. It lowers your breathing so that your voice sounds more normal. So breath work seems to be really important. And what's key is the exhalation. It…”
Abrahams: Purposeful movement and broad gestures dissipate physical shakiness from adrenaline
“So if you move with purpose, you can give that adrenaline a place to go. So if you're standing up in front of a room, step towards the audience with a welcoming gesture. If you're sitting like this, lean forward, gesture broadly. That gives the shakiness a pla…”
Abrahams: Tongue twisters force speakers into present moment while warming voice
“Tongue twisters. I know it sounds silly, but what it does is it warms up my voice, and you can't say a tongue twister right and not be in the present moment.”
Abrahams: A one-minute daily reflection habit drives continuous communication improvement
“Every night before I go to bed, I spend one minute writing down one thing that went well in my communication, and one thing that didn't each day. And on Sunday, I spend five minutes going back and reflecting, and I make a plan to address the, an issue each wee…”
One line per show, most statements first. The link opens Matt's full record on that show: the calibration, argument clarity, speaking style and every statement made there.
| Show | Role there | Eps | Statements | Record | |
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 LENNY'S PODCASTLEDGER | Lecturer, Stanford Graduate School of Business | 1 | 22 | 80% 4/5 | full record on Lenny's Podcast → |
 MASTERS OF SCALELEDGER | Lecturer, Stanford Graduate School of Business | 1 | 19 | 100% 2/2 | full record on Masters of Scale → |