Abrahams: Anxiety and excitement trigger the identical physiological response
Matt Abrahams · How to speak more confidently and persuasively | Matt Abrahams (professor, speaker, author) · Mar 31, 2024 · at 14:21
Stanford communication lecturer Matt Abrahams explains the physiological basis for reframing speaking anxiety on Lenny's Podcast.
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“When you get physically aroused by anxiety, you're under that fight or flight threat response. It turns out that same response Happens to your body when you're excited. The human body has pretty much just one arousal response. Our heart beats faster. We breathe more shallow. We get a little shaky. But the big difference is how we label that.”
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