Assertion Supported
Ury: US men are more religious than women for the first time
“For the first time in history, men in the U.S. Are more religious. They're more likely to go to church than women, and we're just seeing that men and women are really being polarized.”
Assertion Supported
Ury: Arranged marriages become happier than love marriages after five years
“So when you compare love marriages versus arranged marriages, love marriages usually start off happier, but around the five year mark, arranged marriages are happier.”
Opinion
Ury: Men's peer groups provide more personal growth than traditional therapy
“I think it's better than therapy, because most therapists are female, so having your wife or having your female therapist tell you what to do, I think that's fine, but having a council of peers who can really relate to you and create a safe space for you to be…”
Insight
Ury: Using slightly less attractive lookalikes in photos boosts perceived attractiveness
“There is a funny theory in behavioral science, which is that people don't make decisions in a vacuum. They make decisions through comparison. So if you have a friend who looks like you, but is slightly less attractive, then that'll make you look even more attr…”
Opinion
Logan Ury: Gen Z daters want real-life romance but lack rejection resilience
“So I think we're having this issue with Gen Z where they don't necessarily want to be on apps. They want to be meeting people in real life, but they don't have The social skills to do it. And so there's this huge problem with the younger daters that I talked t…”
Prediction Not checkable as stated
Ury: The educational and employment mating gap will continue to widen
“I think that we are going to continue to have this mating gap where, as you say, women continue to thrive in terms of education and employment, and then there just aren't enough
Great guys for them”
Insight
Logan Ury: Dating is an acquired skill, not an instinct
“Dating is a skill, so we're born knowing how to love, we have these natural instincts, but nobody teaches you how to date, and dating is actually pretty new in the span of human history”
Insight
Ury: Maximizers risk getting left behind in dating
“I think that maximizers do really well in a lot of areas of life, but when it comes to dating, they can actually get left behind in their search for perfection.”
Assertion Supported
Ury: Research shows satisficers are happier than maximizers
“The research shows that between maximizers and satisficers, satisficers are often happier because it's not that they settle or have a low bar. It's that when they find something that meets their bar, they just buy it or accept it or move in whatever the matter…”
Assertion Supported
Ury: One in seven UK men aged 16 to 24 are NEET
“There's this report from the UK called the Lost Boys Report. It shows that among men in the UK, 16 through 24. One in seven are NEAT, which stands for Non-Education, Employment, or Training, and this number went up 40% during the pandemic for men, only seven p…”
Assertion Supported
Ury: Women make up 60 percent of US college enrollment
“So right now, 60% of enrollment in college is women. Soon it's gonna be two-thirds.”
Assertion Supported
Ury: US marriage rate nears record low as fertility drops
“The marriage rate is nearing an all time low in the U.S. The fertility rate has dropped 20% in 20 years, and so truly, if fewer people are getting together, fewer marriages, fewer babies, this is actually a crisis for humanity.”
Insight
Ury: Commenting on lower dating profile prompts yields more original matches
“Guys are often lazy and they only comment on like the first picture or the first prompt on a girl's profile. So if you actually scroll down and you comment on something lower, you have a higher chance of being more original because fewer people have just ever …”
Assertion Partly supported
Ury: Only 11 percent of people experience love at first sight
“Only 11% of people
Experience love at first sight, and many people develop feelings over time”
Assertion Supported
Ury: Happy couples turn toward bids 86 percent of the time
“Successful couples that have happy, long marriages, they turn towards each other, 86% of the time. And this, the couples that break up, or are the relationship disasters, they only turn towards each other, 33% of the time.”
Insight
Ury: Support responses outperform shift responses by demonstrating curiosity
“Support responses help that person go deeper, and so you might think that they're equal, but people actually appreciate the support responses more because it shows Curiosity about the other person, and it makes them feel interesting.”
Assertion Supported
Ury: Only 14 percent of US men are six feet or taller
“Yeah, so one stat I can tell you is that a lot of women set their height filter at six feet or taller, and only 14% of the men in the U.S. Are six feet or taller.”
Insight
Logan Ury: Daters are more likely to meet spouses through weak ties
“So there's this concept called the power of weak ties, which is the idea that you're much more likely to get a job from an acquaintance than from one of your close friends, because your close friends have such overlapping lives with you that they know the same…”
Insight
Ury: Listeners are rated as great conversationalists when speakers feel interesting
“There's all this research that in conversations where one person is talking a lot and the other person is asking questions, the first person thinks, wow, that other person's a great conversationalist, and what that actually means is, they made me feel interest…”
Insight
Ury: Conversations improve when avoiding constant direct eye contact
“I think people have really great conversations when they don't have to make this direct eye contact.”
