Insight
Scott: Phone calls provide better feedback signal than video calls
“There's a lot of evidence coming out of University of Chicago and probably other places, but that's the article I've read it, that we, there's more noise than signal in facial expressions and body language, especially if somebody is just a little Square on a c…”
Opinion
Scott: Isaacson's Musk biography pushes a false dichotomy about successful leadership
“There's this false dichotomy. In fact, the new biography of Elon Musk falls into this category. I like Walter Isaacson's work a lot, but he falls prey to this in his biography of Elon Musk, which is there's this notion that we have to choose between being a to…”
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Scott: Likability bias makes it harder for women to challenge directly
“The sort of likability competence bias that a lot of women face pushed me, especially early in my career, in the wrong direction on challenge directly, and it made it much harder for me to, because often I would say something, and I would say it even more gent…”
Disclosure
Scott: Immediate two-minute feedback is more important than being on time
“But if you don't, if it's not possible, and often it was not possible for me in my career to sort of schedule my time that way, I just decided that these moments of management were more important than being on time to my next meeting. And so I was just late so…”
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Scott: Ray Dalio's 400-page 'Principles' has only five pages on caring
“In fact, I did an analysis of Dalio's book, Principles, and there, it's like a, I don't know, three or 400 page book, and there were, I think, four or five pages about caring about people. It's, there's very low care, personally.”
Insight
Kim Scott: Radical Candor Is Measured at the Listener's Ear
“Radical candor gets measured not at, you know, not at the speaker's mouth, but at the listener's ear, and I think that Steve had built a team around him of people who didn't mind rather what other people would consider obnoxious aggression, but I think in the …”
Insight
Scott: Becoming a leader makes you significantly more prone to bullying
“When you become a leader, you're much more prone to bullying, even if you don't think of yourself as a bully”
Insight
Scott: 90% of leaders make 90% of their mistakes in ruinous empathy
“I would say 90% of us make 90% of our mistakes in that ruinous empathy bucket. It's by far and away the most common problem”
Insight
Scott: Relationships don't scale across organizations, but workplace culture does
“No matter how talented you are, relationships don't scale. But she did do those things for her direct reports and the people who she worked most closely with, all, all of us. And when a leader treats their team, the people who they interact with on a day to da…”
Insight
Kim Scott: Praise is more important than criticism in Radical Candor
“However, praise is even more important than criticism in terms of radical candor. Radical candor is not all about The boss giving the employee criticism. It should always start with soliciting feedback and it should include more praise and criticism.”
Disclosure
Scott: I fired a coaching client for giving feedback over Slack
“I once coached someone who kept giving feedback over Slack and I finally just quit coaching him. I was like, I, if you keep making this mistake, I'm not, I can't be your coach.”
Insight
Scott: Withholding critical feedback from underperformers causes top performers to quit
“If I didn't fire Bob, I was gonna lose all my best performers, because not only had it been unfair to Bob not to tell him, I also had been unfair to everyone on the team and they were frustrated. Their deliverables were late because his deliverables were late.…”
Insight
Scott: Focusing on caring for others helps leaders overcome people-pleasing
“One of the things that was helpful for me anyway, so you can tell me if it's helpful for you, what was realizing that my job was not to be liked. My job was to care about other people and to get out of my own head and to become others focused is what helped me…”
Insight
Scott: Managers must challenge directly and highlight mistake patterns against defensiveness
“Sometimes it's useful to show someone a pattern. All of the careless mistakes to, especially if someone is, is defense, is defensive, or if you think they're likely to be defensive. If you think they're likely to do to you what I did to my boss, I don't know. …”
Insight
Scott: People fear negative emotional reactions to feedback more than they occur
“I think we do fear someone else getting upset more often than they actually get upset. We have kind of a negative, negativity bias when it comes to part of the reason why we're reluctant to give feedback.”
Insight
Scott: Establishing radical candor requires soliciting criticism before giving it
“There's really an order of operations to radical candor, and if you begin with soliciting criticism, then you take the first and most important step to improving your relationship with that person enough that, that it becomes easier for you to give it as well …”
Insight
Scott: Praise works better than criticism to reinforce positive manager behaviors
“And if you want, if there are things that your boss Does that you appreciate and you want your boss to do more of those things? Praise is a better tool for that than criticism.”
Insight
Scott: Aggressive leaders improve when coached through enlightened self-interest
“Very often the leaders who are low on the care personally dimension, they do care about their results and they do care about their own careers. And so when you sort of explain this to them in terms of enlightened self-interest, they tend to get better at it.”
Insight
Scott: Obnoxious aggression is inefficient because people tune out the feedback
“Part of the problem with obnoxious aggression is that you harm other people, but it's also inefficient because when you act like that, people can't hear what you're saying, so you're wasting your breath, you know.”
Insight
Scott: Reading fiction is the best way for leaders to build compassion
“I believe that the more novels people read, the better, that's the, if people often ask me, like, what can I do to move up on the care personally dimension of radical candor? And read more novels. This is the best way I know of to build compassion for other pe…”
Insight
Scott: Structure direct report career conversations across three 45-minute sessions
“I think one of the really important things that all managers can do for their direct reports to show that they care is to have real meaningful career conversations where you talk about sort of their life story, sort of their past, whatever part of it they're c…”