Scott: Focusing on caring for others helps leaders overcome people-pleasing
Kim Scott · Radical Candor: From theory to practice with author Kim Scott · Dec 10, 2023 · at 28:15
Kim Scott, author of Radical Candor, discusses with Lenny Rachitsky how leaders can overcome the fear of giving critical feedback and the need to be liked.
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“One of the things that was helpful for me anyway, so you can tell me if it's helpful for you, what was realizing that my job was not to be liked. My job was to care about other people and to get out of my own head and to become others focused is what helped me kind of let go of the need to be liked.”
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