Dr. Sue Johnson: The clinical divide between sex and relationship therapy is ridiculous
Dr. Sue Johnson · #62 Dr. Sue Johnson: Cracking the Code of Love · Jul 23, 2019 · at 44:17
Dr. Sue Johnson, clinical psychologist and developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), argues that attachment science must unify relationship therapy and sex therapy.
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“We have one discipline called sex therapy, and another discipline called relationship couple therapy. How ridiculous is that? I mean, that's ridiculous, ok? And what I'm talking about is actually attachment science helps us understand sex and relationships, and for goodness sake, you know, we need to put those two things together. It's ridiculous that sex therapists don't know anything about relationships. That's ridiculous. You know, and it's ridiculous that relationship therapists don't learn anything about sex.”
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