Santos: People Instinctively Pick Reference Points That Make Them Feel Inadequate
Laurie Santos · Laurie Santos: The Pursuit of Happiness · Jun 14, 2022 · at 8:56
Yale psychology professor Laurie Santos discusses the cognitive biases that undermine human well-being and life satisfaction with Shane Parrish.
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“The comparison point you pick is always somebody that's going to make you feel like crap. And that makes sense. You know, we want to have something to shoot for, but it means we never feel good with what we have. We're always finding reference points that make us feel bad.”
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