Barbara Coloroso
19 statements across 1 episodes · 4 bullish · 2 bearish · 1 people on the record · first statement Oct 30, 2018 by Barbara Coloroso · across every show →
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Coloroso: Teasing is mutual laughter, while taunting is one-sided mockery
“Teasing is laughing with somebody. Taunting is laughing at somebody. So if we can start about age five, talking to kids about the difference between teasing, which is a mutual thing, it's lighthearted, clever, and benign, and it's, ah, only a small part of you…”
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Coloroso: Speech must pass three gates—truth, necessity, and kindness
“I used to use the old Sufi saying that our words must pass through three gates. First, is it true? Not kind of true, maybe true, half true, or rumor, but is it true? Is it necessary to say? Something may be true, but not necessary to say. And the last is, is i…”
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Coloroso: Discipline is collaborative while punishment breeds fear and resentment
“Discipline is not something we do to a child. It's something we do with a child. Punishment's adult-oriented. It is imposed from without. It arouses resentment and teaches kids to respond out of fear or fight back or flee.”
Oct 30, 2018
Coloroso: Impulsive kids make phenomenal lifeguards and EMTs, not brain surgeons
“Kids who are impulsive make phenomenal, I mean this very seriously, phenomenal lifeguards. They make wonderful EMTs and paramedics, lousy brain surgeons, but I don't need a brain surgeon in the back of an ambulance. I need somebody who uses their impulse quick…”
Oct 30, 2018 negative
Coloroso: Parents must mentor teenagers instead of being their friends
“You are their parent till they reach puberty, and then you become their mentor, their model, their guide. I really dislike it when people say, my teenager is my best friend. I say, get a life. You know, they need a mentor. They don't need a friend right now. N…”
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Coloroso: Teasing mirrors flirting, while taunting parallels sexual bullying
“So if we teach them that, then by fourth grade, we can start talking to kids about the difference between flirting, which is normal, natural, necessary to keep the human race going, and sexual bullying, which is none of those. Because the checklist for teasing…”
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Coloroso: Demanding apologies is ineffective; children must actively fix their mistakes
“And another thing you can do is I never demand an apology. I can say, well, you can own what you did to the person you did it to because you ask for an apology. You get one of three kinds. Real heartfelt. Or I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. They keep doing it …”