Van Edwards: Asking deep level-two questions too early ruins dating connections
Vanessa Van Edwards · Communication Expert: Master the Secret Art of Charisma & Influence | Vanessa Van Edwards · Sep 17, 2024 · at 1:10:52
Vanessa Van Edwards explains why daters should pace conversational intimacy using Level One questions instead of rushing to deep topics.
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“And actually that's a mistake that people make in dating is they are trying to speed up. They're like trying to speed up the connection. So they ask level two questions and the person is like totally freaked out.”
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