Zahrai: Manipulation works by targeting insecurities victims already believe about themselves
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Leadership coach Dr. Shadé Zahrai breaks down the psychology of emotional manipulation during an interview with Codie Sanchez.
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“So when someone's trying to manipulate us, it's also often because it's something we deep down believe about ourselves. They are trying to attack. And when they get a response, they know, huh, this is the button I'm pushing.”
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