Brooks: Median number of questions men ask on first dates is zero
Arthur Brooks · Harvard Professor: There Is a FORMULA to Happiness | Arthur Brooks · Feb 26, 2025 · at 29:14
Arthur Brooks, Harvard professor, discusses behavioral tells for identifying narcissists while talking about relationship psychology with Codie Sanchez.
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“You know, the average, by the way, the average number of questions asked by a man on a first date, according to my colleague, Alison Woodbrooks at HBS? Zero. That's the average. That's the median number of questions asked by a man on a first date with a woman.”
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