Jim Dethmer
Co-Founder, The Conscious Leadership Group. On 1 show, 2 appearances, plus 1 compilation re-air not counted. The Shows tab opens the full record on each.
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Jim Dethmer co-founded The Conscious Leadership Group and has advised over 150 CEOs and executive teams. He is the co-author of The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership and introduced the above the line framework.
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Dethmer: High performers fear self-acceptance will cost them their competitive edge
“Self-awareness is easier to train in world-class leaders than self-acceptance. Most of them have a superstitious belief that if they granted themselves a moment of self-acceptance, they'd lose their edge. That absent being constantly self-critical, self-evalua…”
Dethmer: The antidote to fear is acceptance, not courage
“The antidote to fear is not courage. The antidote to fear is acceptance.”
Dethmer: Integrity is energetic wholeness and aliveness, not morality
“Integrity then tends to have more of a, like a moral or an ethical
Kind of orientation.
And the way I play with integrity is none of that.
But again, let's just do a little etymology here.
So integrity from the root same root as integer.
So think of whole numb…”
Dethmer: Victim consciousness is perpetually blaming others for present adult experiences
“There are genuine victims in the world. Victim consciousness is if I'm 70 years old and I'm still blaming my mother, my brother, and my father for my current experience in life.”
Dethmer: Individuals are the sole cause of their own emotional experience
“You are not the cause of my experience. You're not. However much we ever relate in life, you are not the cause of my experience. I would say it this way. I actually won't grant you that power. I am the cause of my experience. You act, and in this case, technol…”
Dethmer: Expressing candor to a surrogate delivers emotional liberation
“I've learned over the years, if you pick a surrogate and reveal them to the surrogate, you will experience the liberation of candor.”
Dethmer: Facts never cause drama, only subjective stories do
“Facts never cause drama. Stories cause drama. And then you learn that you are the source of your stories, and that your drama is caused because you're wanting to be right about your stories, prove you're right, and make the other person wrong.”
Dethmer: Energetically, all integrity breaches carry equal impact
“Well, there are different consequences for integrity breaches, but energetically there's no difference.”
Dethmer: Future organizations will be motivated by intrinsic reward, play, and love
“The organizations, the teams of the future, they're motivated by intrinsic reward, play and love.”
Dethmer: Emotions Are Literal Physical Sensations, Not Thoughts
“Emotions are not thoughts. They are literally sensations in and on the body.”
Dethmer: Victimhood persists because people refuse to surrender the adrenaline rush
“It's not that people even don't know how to change from victim to creator. It's usually that they're unwilling.”
Dethmer: Feeling overwhelmed is optional and destructive long-term
“Being overwhelmed is actually optional, and it's useful in the short run, but very destructive in the long run. It gives initial energy burst, but not long-term sustainability.”
Dethmer: Owning psychological projections exponentially increases learning agility
“If everything you're complaining about, really complaining about in people in your world, if you were willing to eat the projection and see how the things you're complaining about other people are true about you would increase your learning agility exponential…”
Dethmer: Feedback-rich cultures can eliminate formal annual performance reviews
“If you create feedback rich environments, like we're talking about here, you can let go of most formal feedback tools. You don't need to do a semi-annual or annual feedback things, which, you know, still gets rated as one of the things most people hate the mos…”
Dethmer: High-performing teams avoid withholds to prevent relationship withdrawal
“We say, we use this little formula, when you withhold, then you withdraw, and then you project. Which means you disconnect from relationship. So when we look at high performing teams, one of the things we see is they don't have many withholds. Everything is tr…”
Dethmer: Practicing radical responsibility restores personal energy and vitality
“A sure way for me to blunt my aliveness, my day-to-day experience of my vitality is to live in victimhood.
Blame the weather.
Blame the traffic.
What I notice is if I stop blaming, and I choose to move the locus of control back over here, and I choose to have …”
Dethmer: Withholding causes people to withdraw, project, and disconnect
“We say, we use this little formula, when you withhold, then you withdraw, and then you project. Which means you disconnect from relationship.”
Dethmer: High-performing teams keep withholds low and decisions transparent
“So when we look at high performing teams, one of the things we see is they don't have many withholds. Everything is transparent to the decision process.”
Dethmer: Broken and unclear agreements drain energy and create drama
“And I find that one of the ways people bleed off life energy is they don't make clear agreements. When they make clear agreements, they break their agreements, which creates a life force diminishment. It also creates drama and relationships.”
Dethmer: Humans outsource core needs like security and approval after early childhood
“After about the age of four to six, we forget that we already have all of these on the inside. And so we outsource them, and we spend the rest of our life thinking that if we get enough money, we'll feel safe and secure.”
Dethmer: Most perceived personal threats in modern life target ego identity
“But for most of the people you and I know, they've created a world where they're safe and secure enough that the infringement isn't that. The vast majority of the infringement is the infringement on the identity. It's the infringement on the ego identity.”
Dethmer: Radical responsibility is not a license to treat others poorly
“When I say I grant you agency for your experience, that's not, it doesn't live in me as a license for me to be an asshole. It doesn't go there. It doesn't say, well, you're responsible for your own experience. If you're upsetting yourself, that's your problem.…”
Dethmer: Somatic emotional sensations naturally dissipate within seconds or minutes
“And then what we discover is the half-life of any set of sensations tied to an emotion is fairly short. It's minutes, maybe even seconds. It's not hours and days.”
Dethmer: Cognitive-emotive loops turn temporary feelings into chronic moods like resentment
“That turns into this cognitive motive loop, which you can stay in for years, and to your point, that turns into a mood. It's not a feeling anymore. Now it's not a feeling of anger. It's a mood of resentment. It's a mood of bitterness. Now it becomes a posture,…”
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