Scott: Prioritize long-term helpful feedback over short-term hurt feelings
Kim Scott · 20VC: Why Radical Candor Is Crucial in Workplaces, Why 85% of Work Relationship Mistakes Happen and Why You Should Not Try and Be More Likeable with Kim Scott, Co-Founder @ Candor Inc · Jul 7, 2017 · at 3:58
Kim Scott, co-founder of Candor Inc., explains the core philosophy behind her Radical Candor framework for communication and feedback.
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“If you take just a second to establish a human connection, and if you don't let the concern, the worry about the other person's short-term feelings get in the way of telling them something that is really good for them to hear in the long run, then you wind up improving the world around you and building better relationships.”
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